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Jennifer
Savvy April 2022

Mid-thirties brides, bouquet toss?

Jennifer, on October 16, 2021 at 2:41 PM

Posted in Wedding Reception 27

Hi girls! My fiancé and I have waited until we were a bit older to get married. We’re in our mid-thirties, which means most of our guests are married with kids or older relatives. Other brides in our age range, what are you doing about the bouquet toss? I’m not really bothered either way to be...
Hi girls! My fiancé and I have waited until we were a bit older to get married. We’re in our mid-thirties, which means most of our guests are married with kids or older relatives.


Other brides in our age range, what are you doing about the bouquet toss? I’m not really bothered either way to be honest. Part of me wants to do it out of tradition, but there are so few “single ladies” attending I feel like it will be 2-3 women and then like loads of little kids…either way we’re not doing a garter toss. My British fiancé finds it weird haha!
So, what is everyone doing? To toss or not to toss?

27 Comments

  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    Skipped it. My bouquet is now a permanent fixture on my mantel.

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  • Melanie
    Dedicated November 2022
    Melanie ·
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    We’re skipping them at ours. The whole garter tops is just a little cringy to me. We have a ton of kids that will be at our wedding so we considered doing a little bride and groom bear toss. But we just might skip all of it together. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Skipped this as well. Was never a fan, remember attending a wedding as a kid and thought it was the stupidest thing ever, promised myself I would never do that at my wedding. Besides my bouquet was too beautiful to toss.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Im 51 & my husband is 50-we did the bouquet/garter toss. Like you, most of our friends are either married or in a committed relationship. We put a twist on this though. We had all the women (for bouquet) & the men (for the garter) come up regardless of marital status. Whoever caught it won scratch tickets-everybody love it!

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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated November 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Love this alternative. We’re not doing it bc we have more than one guest who’s recently widowed, so I felt it would be too emotional for them. I’ve personally come to hate the bouquet toss tradition and the spotlight it puts on single women (plus the assumption that all single women want to get married) so we’re just skipping it altogether. But if we didn’t have recently widowed guests I’d consider this alternative for sure.
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  • Martha
    Just Said Yes April 2022
    Martha ·
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    No toss. Most of our guests are married and I'd rather spend more time with my guests and/or dance more.


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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
    Mrs. Coakley ·
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    I got married a few years ago and it was just starting to be phasing out as a tradition. Our DJ had a great idea that worked well and made no one uncomfortable. For photo purposes, I did the bouquet toss but my bridesmaids and friends (not just singles) were out there to catch it. and My husband did the garter toss with the groomsmen and some friends (not just singles) -- my MOH caught my bouquet and a groomsman caught the garter. The roles then got switched so my MOH was putting the garter on the groomsman as a joke. It was funny, and the photos were priceless.

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