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Jennifer
Savvy April 2022

Mid-thirties brides, bouquet toss?

Jennifer, on October 16, 2021 at 2:41 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 27
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Hi girls! My fiancé and I have waited until we were a bit older to get married. We’re in our mid-thirties, which means most of our guests are married with kids or older relatives.


Other brides in our age range, what are you doing about the bouquet toss? I’m not really bothered either way to be honest. Part of me wants to do it out of tradition, but there are so few “single ladies” attending I feel like it will be 2-3 women and then like loads of little kids…either way we’re not doing a garter toss. My British fiancé finds it weird haha!
So, what is everyone doing? To toss or not to toss?

27 Comments

Latest activity by Mrs. Coakley, on October 31, 2021 at 5:34 AM
  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    You don't have to do anything. I've never seen one at a real wedding before, I think it's a dying tradition.
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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    You can skip it entirely. We replaced it with an anniversary dance (longest married couple got the toss bouquet and gave us some wisdom they've learned for making a marriage last).
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    I've never been a fan of the bouquet or garter toss so we eliminated them. No one even missed it.
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  • I_Do_Too
    Devoted September 2020
    I_Do_Too ·
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    We are skipping that and the garter toss.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    Hello I’m 34 and my fiancé will be 31 by the time we get married, like you most of our friends are married with kids so we’re doing all the ladies on the floor married or not we are attaching a 20 bill to the bouquet so whoever wins gets the money
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    We skipped both; in our opinion, they made no sense in a modern wedding.

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  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
    Katie ·
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    I am in my thirties as well and totally get it! I decided to throw my bouquet out of our get away car after the ceremony to my little sister who is special needs. She loved it ❤️
    The anniversary dance is always a cute route to go too ❤️
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  • Jennifer
    Savvy April 2022
    Jennifer ·
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    Thanks all, I think we’ll probably skip it. Love the idea of an anniversary dance though! Maybe we’ll do that instead Smiley smile
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    It can be very sweet -- but IMO only if none of your guests are divorced, widowed, etc. You don't want to make anyone uncomfortable or call attention to those who can no longer join the dance (for whatever reason).
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  • Bird
    Super June 2021
    Bird ·
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    During my ceremony rehearsal, I held a fake bouquet consisting of the bows from my bridal shower present wrapping. Afterwards, we were standing around talking and on a whim I decided to throw it to my 15 yr old niece, 21 yr old cousin and my 90 year old grandma (who is single)


    My grandma caught the bouquet! It was fun Smiley smile
    We planned not to do a bouquet toss during the actual wedding and I’m glad we didn’t.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We skipped it. We had a small wedding and as a previous single lady, I always hated that at weddings.
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  • Samantha
    Super August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I just attended a wedding where all but 4 ke so of the women in attendance were in committed relationships. It was pretty awkward as a guest, so the more newly engaged of us got up to join the crowd for the sake of the pictures. Skipping it is totallyyyyyy and option!
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  • Sarahk
    Dedicated December 2021
    Sarahk ·
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    Skipping it! Im 35 and my fiancé is 45. So our friend group range from 30-55. With only two single female friends in attendance, it’ll be awkward.
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  • Fiona
    Super May 2024
    Fiona ·
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    We didn't have many single women at our wedding and I wanted to do something special with it so I gave it to my mum for all her help in everything she had done to help us with our wedding. Smiley smile

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    We’re skipping garter and bouquet toss. I’ve been to many weddings over the past few years that didn’t do them and no one missed them at all, so don’t feel pressured to do it if you don’t want to.
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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    We skipped it for that very reason, and it was not missed!
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
    Shannon ·
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    I haven’t see a bouquet toss in years. This was the time when I would hide in the bathroom to avoid the whole thing.
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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    36 here! Another vote for not doing it. We have a bunch of friends who won't ever got married, and it seems to disrespect the importance of their relationship to imply they're 'single' when in fact they've been together longer than we have. And the very few who aren't in a relationship.. It just feels unkind to drag them up there. I know I would have hated it, if it had been me, and why would I want to risk making my guests feel like that?

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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Yep that would be about the time I’d hide in the bathroom.

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  • E
    Dedicated October 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I'm 33 and skipping it. I don't want to call out the like 2-3 single people and always hated being pushed to participate in my late 20s. It just feels awkward.
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