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Devoted December 2016

Mexican brides or marrying a Mexican...

Jazz, on May 23, 2016 at 4:24 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 11
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FH and I both come from Mexican families. Our parents are from the same town in Mexico so everyone pretty much knows each other. I was just wondering what traditions or will you be having at your wedding? Or what have your inlaws or family requested that you follow? Our families are very old fashioned, so we will start living together until after the wedding. We will also be having a catholic wedding with "padrinos" for the ceremony.

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  • Cheryl
    Devoted February 2017
    Cheryl ·
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    I am Tohono O'odham from AZ and our land and people goes into Mexico and we have many of the same traditions. My family is also very traditional but we are not going to do all the traditions. No padrinos, we are having a traditional blessing by a medicine man, and getting married in the catholic church at our historic mission. My family advised me that we will be having the full mass and usually the village the bride is from everyone is welcome to come. That one we are not doing because it is very expensive for us. The wailia(dancing) festivities will possibly be at an another time which is also the village celebration. Of course all the "cooks" will be there :-)

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  • NativeBride
    Super October 2016
    NativeBride ·
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    My FH family wants the money dance! Ahhhh

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  • SummerS
    Master January 2016
    SummerS ·
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    DH's parents and extended family are from Mexico, but they had already moved to the states by the time they began to have children, so DH is not from Mexico himself. Some of their family still live in Mexico though. I am not of Mexican decent. The only traditionally Mexican thing we did at our wedding was to have a Mariachi band during dinner at the first part of the reception. It was very nice and I know made his parents happy. We had several of his family members ask if they could "help" (as in be a Padrino) when we got engaged, but we politely declined. DH's parents/family did not make any requests of us to follow any traditions though...this is a perk to not accepting any financial help from them...no pay, no say!

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  • Nicole
    Master July 2015
    Nicole ·
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    I'm only a 1/4 Mexican, but my Tia had mariachi during her cocktail hour and dinner. It was kind of fun and gave it the cantina or Mexican restaurant feel.

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  • Jazz
    Devoted December 2016
    Jazz ·
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    Were only having padrinos for the ceremony but we are paying for everything which includes the rings, arras "coins", lazo, and the flower bouquet which will be offered to Virgin Mary.

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  • Jazz
    Devoted December 2016
    Jazz ·
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    We are also having mariachi for the full mass and a mexican band play for the reception. We are not doing the dollar dance.

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  • SoontobeMrsO
    Super May 2016
    SoontobeMrsO ·
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    My FH's sister got us a mariachi for the cocktail hour and while dinner is being served (not really my style but FH enjoys it and he has a lot of family from Mexico coming into town) they also wanted us to have a money dance but I feel really awkward doing that so I declined that.

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  • Mrs.Hawks
    Master October 2016
    Mrs.Hawks ·
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    I'm Mexican and I have a lot of family who still lives there. I'm marrying an American. I've lived here for most of my life so about half of my customs and beliefs are from here. I kind of have the best of both worlds. We are doing the "lazo" during our ceremony. I will go off by myself and pray to the virgin mary after the ceremony. We are not getting married in the catholic church because FH isn't catholic, he's protestant. We decided to be married in a non-denominational church with a pastor we both absolutely love. We aren't seeing each other the day of the wedding nor spending the night before together which is traditional. We live together, and have for years so that was frowned upon with most of my family. We are honestly just doing it the way we want to do it. We don't want to push each other's cultures on each other, we simply try to embrace them. We are trying to do a good mix of both. Your wedding should be what you and FH are comfortable doing.

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  • MrsND
    Master November 2016
    MrsND ·
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    I'm FH and I are both Mexican American. We are having a full Catholic Mass. We have padrinos for only the Lazo, Arras, and Flowers for the Virgen Mary . Mostly the important ones. Mariachi for the Ceremony & dinner.

    We are still deciding whether to have a band but do already have the DJ booked. For favors, we are having Mexican wedding cookies.

    ETA: Kind of weird because our families are also from the same city in Mexico! (more of small town)

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  • OriginalKD
    Master December 2015
    OriginalKD ·
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    DH is of Mexican decent (both sets of grandparents were from Mexico). We did not incorporate any specific traditions - I asked if he wanted to but he was not interested in it. One thing that was kind of funny - DH requested mariachis. DH hates mariachis. Turns out it was a joke, but the joke was almost on him :-p

    Felicidades to my fellow brides and happy planning!

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  • A
    Dedicated October 2016
    adrirodri1 ·
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    My Family is all Mexican so I will be doing arras at our church ceremony/mass, I'll be leaving my bouquet in the church at the feet of Virgen de Guadalupe, playing spanish music half the time, the dollar dance, i'll be having padrinos, and we'll be doing the Vivora De La Mar with girls and guys....we'll also be having carnitas which is similar to Hawaii's Kalua Pork meal (FH is from Hawaii)

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