Metalhead groom.....tasteful way to harness my music tastes for the wedding?

Friendors are not good. That aside, what about cover versions of your favorite songs? I prefer punk/alternative and we want to have a few "punk goes pop" songs and even Vitamin String Quartet versions of songs that aren't necessarily "wedding appropriate". That could be a compromise for you.

Any A7X on the list?

ETA: my FH's name is Evan and for a second when I saw the name I thought he made an account. He is also a metal head. We are incorporating some A7X in our line up.

It really depends on how you want the feel of the wedding to be. There's a ton of options if you want a heavier song in a not-so-heavy arrangement (think string quartets doing covers; symphony orchestras, etc). You can also choose whatever song you and your FI want for your first dance; my brother used one from Theory of a Deadman.

Aside from that, I'd advise knowing your crowd and mixing the music up; don't keep it specifically a single genre or tone. Incorporate yourselves, but be sensitive about what gets played.

For what it's worth, I was leaning towards a string version of Green Day's "21 Guns" or a symphony version of Metallica for some of our ceremony music. I didn't use it, but it was definitely in contention.

Using band names for table names is an idea I have considered. Also yes, I have plenty of "punk goes pop" already in my music arsenal that I can use. Plus, I like bands that have made more good non screamo stuff, such as Bring Me the Horizon's most recent album "That's the Spirit", as well and some good acoustic stuff by metal bands I like.

And in regards to the friendor comments....nothing is set in stone yet, even remotely, for the music. I was more or less fleshing out some ideas for the wedding. Also I am not just straight up metal, believe me I like some good classic dance stuff like some Backstreet Boys.

FH is also a hard rock/metal fan. As are plenty of his friends, and my brothers. All the DJs I've talked to, really like to keep with the party music, and really only give an option for 10-20 choice songs. That includes entrance, exit, first dance, father-daughter/son-mother, and anything else special you want to happen in your reception. Some take more requests. We did finally find a DJ that is willing to work on a playlist WITH us. FH is using some of his less overwhelming metal music. I gave him rules: no screaming for longer than 10 seconds at a time or more than a handful of times in the song, no obvious cursing/inappropriate language, and no anger or songs about a relationship gone wrong. The last of those are rules I'm applying to all of my reception music that I have a say in. I want him to have a good time, and enjoy the music played at his reception too, but I really can only take this kind of music in very small doses, and the same with my friends and a good amount of the older crowd that will be there.

ETA: I gave him another rule.. I've always felt like metal music, as well as some others have their music louder than the words in some songs.. I do NOT feel that this is appropriate for a wedding either. I love instrumental music, I love loud music, but I also like to understand what is being said when words are being sung. Therefore, I would try to stick to songs that are balanced in this aspect.

I think if you scatter it here and there I think you can pull it off. For example your walking in song, your first dance song, stuff like that you could pull it off. Id do more punk goes pop for actual ambiance music throughout the reception. I love ADTR and I think they are a healthy compromise as they have quite a few songs that aren't as heavy but definitely still have that metal flair you're wanting. What will be your first dance song? I love you had me at hello and we were considering using that one

It's really a know you crowd type situation.

Hubs favorite musician of all time is Rob Zombie, I'm a die hard Five Finger Death Punch kind of girl myself.

But no one really in our guest list was big into metal or rock at all.

So we did a collection of soundtrack music for the dinner that were from all our nerdy favorite movies.

We walked out to an instrumental version of More Human Than Human, as a nod to our collective "non traditional" musical tastes.

Check and see if there are any string quartet covers of songs/bands you like. Perfect way to put your taste into the cocktail hour / meal portion. Then just play what you like as well as a mix to appease other guests. It was hilarious I had a decent amount of goth music played at my first wedding but because it was mixed in with more generic wedding stuff we ended up having like elderly family stay on the dance floor dancing to goth club music. It was great.

Check out the Trans-Siberian Orchestra. They do awesome metal covers on classical instruments. There really beautiful with a metal undertone. Any none metal heads will hear lovely classical music and the metal heads will go hheeeyyy I know this song lol.

Use some dream theater! Best of both worlds

FH and I are the same way! Our first dance is going to be "You Had Me At Hello" by ADTR. And I'm also thinking about having our introduction song to the reception as Pierce The Veil's cover of "Just The Way You Are!" You can definitely do it, just gotta do it subtly!

Love ADTR! I've heard some awesome violin covers of them for walking down the aisle, etc. Check out the youtube covers, easy way to incorporate all your favorite music with less of a punch to your guests that aren't big fans...best of both worlds!

We have been having this discussion too. We are older and like old school hard rock (AC/DC, Judas Priest) and new stuff too. The first concert we ever saw together was 5FDP. So, we will probably have all rock, but we'll do some softer stuff and just a smattering of the hard core stuff. It's a well known fact that we have this in common, so I'm sure the guests would be surprised if we DIDN'T have this kind of music.

I agree with the "know your crowd" statements PP have made. I recently went to a wedding where every time music that was the bride and groom's taste came on (punk/alternative), almost everyone left the dance floor. It made for some awkward lulls. If the majority of your guests would enjoy it and dance to it, I say go for it.

So, the ceremony is for you guys. The reception is for your guests- to thank them for coming to your ceremony.

Could you find a slowed -down instrumental version of a favorite song to use as a processional / recessional song? Or even for you to walk to?

Other than your first dance song, which you and your groom will be the only ones dancing to- I'd pick music that will help your party flow the best. If 90% of your guests are metal fans- then have most of your music be metal.

If not, I guarantee you and your fiancé are going to be the only ones having fun. And that's not really much of a party.

FH is also a big metalhead, only his metal is much heavier than that so that type was out of the question. How do you feel about metallica song when you are introduced in your reception? You most likely are going to have to compromise on this because a lot of metal (screaming) people don't want to hear. I enjoy August burns red, they are probably the lightest of what you listed and also a Christian band but unless a big part of you guest list likes this kind of music I wouldn't play it during the reception other than an entrance song or something with vocals the majority of your guest can understand, as they will say.

Well..I will either be walking down the aisle to galatic empires version of the imperial March or part of little piece of heaven by a7x..so In my opinion metal is totally okay! We are also having a metal version of hava nagila played and will have bane, metallica, and a few others during the reception. This is your day..screw tradition and what other people expect!

I'm sort of in the same boat, so I also appreciate all of the suggestions. FH loves metal and I never listened to it until we started dating. While I really like Five Finger Death Punch, Atreyu and Lamb of God I couldn't see how to fit them or others into a wedding playlist. At most there would be maybe 10 guests that would like it out of 150. I also remember the mosh pit at the Atreyu concert we went to, so I have anxiety about something happening at the wedding lol

I'll check out some of the suggestions from above when it comes to sitting down to make a list for the DJ. I've listened to the Vitamin String Quartet before and would also recommend them.

ETA I'm currently listening to Vitamin String Quartet on Spotify. They have a lot of metal, include an album specifically covering A7X.

The DJ we just booked suggested playing stuff that you like that people don't really dance to during dinner. And when it's time to start dancing switching it up to dancing music.

I'm the metalhead in the relationship...my favorite is Trivium but I probably won't play it at our wedding. I'm hoping at least for some Megadeth and Iron Maiden. I know my side of the family will be more than okay with it, but again, you should consider your crowd. Maybe consider some instrumentals from the band's you listed--I know August Burns Red has a couple. ADTR also has some "lighter" songs, too.

What does your fiance listen to? There might be some compromise here. For example, my FH likes Taylor Swift, and I don't hate her so I told him we can play a few of her songs at our wedding.