My FH and I are on the fence of doing tuxes or having the men wear nice jeans and a vest that would be homemade (we know someone who can do it and it will look nice.) Our shoes are converse and we are trying to save money on everyone's pocket. Plus we are not dressy people; we are the type that goes with the flow... any suggestions 😃
I think it depends on your venue, the vibe you’re going for, your dress, and bridesmaids’ dresses if they’ve already been selected. Tuxes are very formal and jeans are very informal, so it just depends on what goes with the decisions you’ve already made. If you want something in between you could go with a suit or a dress shirt and slacks.
It depends on the type of wedding you are having. If your wedding is formal then I would definitely do suits or tuxes, but if your wedding isn't formal than jeans are fine. For instance, we had ours at a 5 star hotel with a ballroom and it would have looked very unusual if our guys had been in jeans. We also wanted our guests to dress up so it would have been hypocritical of us to say they have to dress up, but allow our guys to wear jeans. Our one friends got married at a park. For the ceremony guests had the option of standing or sitting on haybales. The reception was in a pavilion. It was an extremely laid back wedding. The groomsmen worn jeans, cowboy boot, button down shirts and ties. They had yard games and children running around. They made it very clear to everyone that the wedding was laid back and no one was required to dress up. I wasn't able to attend the wedding, but I wouldn't have work jeans as a guest, but I know some guests did. Personally, I don't like jeans as weddings.
Attire will depend on the formality of the wedding. If you’re having a plated meal in a ballroom it would be strange to have the groomsmen in jeans. But if you’re getting married in a park and having a bbq buffet it would be strange to have the groomsmen in tuxes.
Have you already chosen your gown, or the type dresses the bridesmaids will be wearing? And what do you want for the type of dinner, and the way it is served? It matters only that your guys are dressed with the same formality as the women, and the reception and meal reflect both. If they are mismatched, they look ridiculous. As long as everything is elegant and formal, suits or tuxes are great. If everything is informal, fine to have jeans. I went to a wedding last year where the bride was basically laughed at by everybody. She was in a hooped sparkly ballgown worthy of Glenda the good witch in Wizard of Oz. The bridesmaids looked like they were taken from classical Greek art, straight columns of tricot and chiffon. And the guys looked like farmhands from Kansas. At an old New England stone grist mill and colonial alehouse and inn . The pics are bizarre. Sadly, after the fact, the bride, groom and families hate the pics, watched the video once and we're upset to see the wedding as guests saw it. Tiaras and tankards don't mix well. So as you pick individual things, like how the men dress, tie in with the level of formality of other things .