Devoted August 2019

Men at Bridal showers

Alhina, on May 9, 2019 at 12:55 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 15
I have a silly question for everyone. Do the Groom and Groomsman suppose to come to the bridal shower? My FH say bridal showers are not for men.


Latest activity by Heather , on May 11, 2019 at 9:41 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    There are no rules, you and the host can do whatever you'd like, coed wedding showers are definitely a thing. Traditionally groomsmen do not attend the bridal shower. Usually (at least where I live) the groom comes at the end to thank everyone for their gifts and to help pack up.

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  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    You can do it either way. Either a traditional shower where it's just ladies, or a coed shower where typically men in the wedding party, but also SOs are invited.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    We had a coed shower and it was a lot of fun. This is just a matter of personal preference and if the people hosting your shower want to keep it ladies only or invite the men too.

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  • B11
    Super May 2019
    B11 ·
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    I had a females only shower. FH dropped me off and came in at the beginning to say hi to everyone. He also came as it was ending to thank everyone, help load gifts, and pick me up.

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·
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    My groom was at my bridal shower because we traveled to PA from FL for the shower and another event unrelated to the wedding so he really had no where else to go. A friends boyfriend came and sat at the bar with him at the restaurant we had the shower at so he wasn't directly involved but he was still there, ate lunch with us, then left while I opened presents.

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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    You can do a coed one if you want to. I think it's just up to whoever is hosting.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Bridal showers are just for the bride & women. Couples showers are for the bride & groom, and women/male guests. I've seen grooms come at the very end and bring the bride flowers, then thank the guests.

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  • Martelle
    Devoted July 2019
    Martelle ·
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    We did a coed party and it was a lot of fun! My sister and mom who hosted it had little game prizes for both men and women.

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  • Tiffany
    Dedicated April 2020
    Tiffany ·
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    All the bridal showers I’ve been to they were all coed. It’s all about what you want to do.
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  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
    Mandy ·
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    Bridal Shower to me implies it's a female only shower. Just "wedding shower" is more co-ed though. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding/bridal shower where the groomsmen were present though. It's not mandatory for anyone to show up. My FH didn't want to go (he didn't want to open presents in front of people, etc) so we just did a bridal shower.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    No groomsmen for “bridal” shower (versus coed if you were inclined), but often times the grooms make at least a brief appearance.
    At mine, for example, my H went out with the boys (my dad and a couple uncles whose wives were at the shower) for lunch and drinks while we did shower stuff (mingling, games, eating, presents). Toward the end, H returned, and played one more game with us (basically a version of the shoe game). This was lots of fun, and a nice way for some of my cousins to get to know him a little better before the wedding, but, surely not required. I wasn’t even sure he was going to be in town that weekend originally, I would’ve been fine if he wasn’t and couldn’t come. Some men don’t, some men swing through at the end only to help load presents into the car.
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    You could do a co-ed "couples shower" but if you are just doing a "bridal shower" I would say no, FH and groomsmen do not have to come (I doubt they would enjoy it much honestly lol). My FH and my brother both made an appearance at the beginning of mine for the first 10 mins or so to say hello to everyone, but then they left.

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  • Alhina
    Devoted August 2019
    Alhina ·
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    Thanks everyone for your help. My FH and I decided that he would come to the bridal at the end to collect gifts and thank everyone.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    We asked for a coed party, because a) the wedding is BOTH of us, so why should I be the only one celebrated? and b) our BPs are mixed and it makes more sense to us this way.

    Plus, we didn't do an engagement party (unless you count the party where he proposed), and, y'know, I like hanging out with him Smiley tongue .

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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
    Heather ·
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    Traditionally there are no men at the bridal shower, but don't let that keep you from having whoever you want there. I just talked with my fiancé and one of the groomsmen about this last night, and my fiancé definitely feels that it is a female thing and doesn't want to be there. I am having one man there, but he is my bridesman. I also just went to my FSIL's shower, and her FH dropped her off and picked her up, and his brother was with him, and my FFIL stopped by after as well.

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