Meeting with an officiant... Not sure what to expect.

If he makes you feel guilty, he's not the one for you.

Relax, enjoy and be yourselves

They usually ask your religious affiliation but only to help craft your ceremony. You will probably discuss the location, whether you will use traditional or written vows, Whether he will attend the rehearsal etc. Ours talked about how he viewed it as a spiritual ceremony and special because two souls were joining...He asked our religion a d we are both atheist and he still performed the ceremony for us. If the pastor makes you feel bad about yourself I would find someone else because he clearly won't perform the ceremony you want.

I agree with Bee and Tina. I think for most professional officiants, they are able to see marriage as a blessing/rite outside of religious practice, so they really will be more concerned if you guys seem in love and getting married for the right reasons, and not whether you are going to church or not. If he does make you feel guilty, you probably won't feel comfortable having him officiate the day of, and you should keep looking.

PS our officiant is a minister/former Catholic priest, and so he did ask us how much "religion" vs "spirituality" vs none of it we wanted to include. He genuinely didnt seem to care, but this may be a question you are asked, just so the officiant knows how to tailor your ceremony.

We met with our officiant last Saturday. He is the associate pastor of the church I would go to "if" I did go to church but I haven't been to church since I was a little kid.

He went over the ceremony with us, the prayers he would read and which name's he would call us. FH goes by his initial instead of his name. He also had to get clarification on FH's last name because its hard to say.

He made us feel very comfortable, asked if we wanted any changes to the ceremony, prayers, or scripture he was going to read. We both felt it was worth it!

If it doesn't work out with him for any reason, check with Rev. Judith Guasch -- she serves your area and is listed here on WW.

www.weddingwire.com/biz/rev-judith-guasch-div-wedding-officiant-gettysburg/0e43d0457331b072.html

Judith rocks. You need to feel comfortable and not judged. In my initial meetings, I ask about the couple, and I walk through the parts of the ceremony we might or might not include, so they get a sense of the structure. You should leave with an idea that you like the ceremony, his presentation style and personality.

Did I mention that Judith rocks?