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Natalie
Just Said Yes August 2020

May Weddings - are you still holding your wedding day?

Natalie, on March 29, 2020 at 7:37 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 85
As selfish as it seems in a time like this, I just can’t believe this is happening. I’ve been planning my big day May 30th for almost 2 years. Been with my fiancé for over 8 years and just want to marry him. Now who knows if it’ll even happen. I was supposed to have my bridal shower April 19th and now with Trump’s latest press conference I don’t think that’ll be happening. Honestly this virus is ruining my life. I’m to the point where I am no longer excited about anything. I feel numb. Guess I’m just seeing what others are feeling and how you’re coping with everything?

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Latest activity by Alycia, on April 16, 2020 at 9:31 AM
  • Devoted March 2021
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    Awwww sugar! Keep your head up! Cry if you have to, but then find that excitement that you felt at the beginning of all of The planning! You’ve come so far and you two still have so much ahead of you! My FH & I have been together 7.5 years. We were supposed to be married last Friday and I felt all the feelings you’re feeling, but it’s beyond your control. Now is the time to lean on each other and be thankful that no matter if your date changes, you’ve built a strong foundation and you will come out on top when this is behind you. We are all facing this disappointment. I was so depressed the night before my “wedding” and the morning of...but the day was so sunny and beautiful and everything I hoped we would have on our wedding day. We still enjoyed it, through the sadness and had a great day just the two of us!! Find your happy! A day is just a day. You’ll still get yours! 💞
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  • Chelsea
    Savvy August 2020
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    We just postponed today we are supposed to get married May 24th. We are in California and we can’t even get a marriage license, they canceled my appointment 2 weeks ago. We have been together 11 years so I’m literally devastated that we have to do this as I’ve waited long enough for this day to come. Trying to keep my wits together but it’s definitely overwhelming and sad. Wish you the best of luck
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  • Veronica
    Expert June 2021
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    Feeling the same way I’m in California and we can’t even get a marriage license we have to talk to our this coming week to see what’s going on. I’m numb and sad and hasn’t hit me yet the reality of what’s happening. I just want to get married to my best friend and we can’t even do something small.
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  • Jordan
    Devoted August 2020
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    Aww girl, keep your head up! Just know you are not alone! There are thousands of couples going through this right now too. As hard as it is, I absolutely would come up with a plan B. I guess it really depends on where you are, but for example here in Illinois most, if not all, have postponed all April & May weddings and even June. Because this lockdown could extend even longer, and at this point it’s about the safety of your guests. I know that sucks to hear, trust me when I posted on here and people gave me suggestions like that I didn’t want to hear it. But know that your day will still come and it’ll be better then ever! Promise 🥰
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  • Natalie
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    We’ve had a back up date in place for 8/1. Due to this extension to the 30th, my shower is cancelled. And I want to enjoy those fun things like the shower and bachelorette. Also, I feel like the turn out of May 30th wouldn’t be good if it’s just getting lifted or not lifted at all. We don’t know. I feel like at this point I should just postpone it.
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  • Jordan
    Devoted August 2020
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    I hate to say it, but I agree! Don’t settle for things because of these circumstances! If you postpone you’ll be able to get the bridal party, bachelorette party and wedding you’ve always dreamed of! Just know you’re not alone! If you need to vent you can always message me too! You got this! 😀
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  • Natalie
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    It all just feels wrong. But it probably does for everyone going through this. I guess I’m just scared to make the jump and postpone it. Thanks for the support. You’re too kind!
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  • MeetTheRobinsons
    Devoted June 2020
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    I'm so sorry and I definitely understand your frustrations; this is a terrible time for everyone. We had to cancel our May 9th wedding to June 20th due to the resort shutting down to May 21st. I'm hurt but I understand and I don't want any of our guest to be compromised. We will get through this; hang in there. Smiley ring

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  • Amanda
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    I feel the same! It stinks, I am considering postponing my wedding because I feel like people might still be scared by June to even be in large groups. My bridal shower has been postponed twice now lol. Just have to keep going and everything will be the day you always wanted! Good luck!
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  • Tandya
    Beginner May 2020
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    I am in the exact same boat, and had the exact same date. This is supposed to be such a happy time for us! I didn’t want the stress and the uncertainty for our guests, so we postponed to August. Our family lives in Europe however, so we may even have to postpone to next year if things don’t drastically improve. It’s such a trying time, but what makes me feel better is knowing I’m not alone, and that I have my person, no matter when the date is. Things will be okay, for all of us. X
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  • Just Said Yes September 2020
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    I was suppose to get married on May 16, 2020 but have decided to postpone the wedding to September. Talk with your vendors about a backup plan. They are all very supportive and accommodating to help smooth the transition of postponing. Once I had a backup plan in place, my anxiety and stress level went down. Yes, the date isn't ideal because it's on a Sunday but we really wanted to get married this year. Also, everything was literally falling apart for me these past few weeks that lead me to decide to postpone. My room blocks were completely canceled because Marriott hotel has decided to close operations for an indefinite time period. The airlines canceled my guests' flights for the wedding. Also, some states are requiring a 2 week quarantine before returning to work even if you're traveling within the states. On top of placing your loved ones' health at risk, it just felt like the right decision to postpone the wedding.
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  • Cassie
    Savvy August 2020
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    I feel the same way! Ours was a day after yours - May 31st. With the news of the new lockdown date of April 30th, I’m getting more anxious and am seriously contemplating postponing. To help me cope, I’ve been crying a lot and talking with my FH and mom about it. It’s also taken a lot of joy out of me, I was starting to get those feelings of excitement but now it’s all gone and now I feel numb. IDK what to think...
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  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
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    We are May 9th! We lose our 1000 deposit but get our 6800 back since we are cancelling our wedding at the venue. We will have a smaller reception of 10 people or less, and a ceremony as well. It sucks. We dont wanna postpone. We rather just get married and make the best of what's going on around us.
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  • Erin
    Beginner October 2020
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    Good morning! My heart goes out to you and all the other brides to be (especially May wedding brides). My wedding was set for May 30th as well. I’m waiting until mid April to make a final decision because it seems like this virus is changing so rapidly. Luckily, I already applied for my marriage license and the court is working with me to be able to pick it up successfully even if they close. I’m hoping to have an intimate small ceremony of 10 or less (hoping my state allows it at that time) and then we tentatively have a back up date to have a large celebration in October. I think If you are end of May, we are cutting it very close.,, but I think there is a very small chance of having something small could still be a possibility (of course depending upon your states restrictions at the time)... best of luck!
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  • Renay
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    You are so not alone. I am struggling. We were supposed to get married April 25th. We were high school sweethearts and have waited what feels like our whole life for this. We have been together over 9 years, engaged for over 3. We picked the date because it was my dad's birthday and he died when I was 8. We decided to do a private ceremony on that day, and have rescheduled the big day to June 27th. Our original venue will not reschedule or refund and we took a loss there, but a nearby winery offered to host our wedding at no venue fee. Everyone seems happy with it and keeps saying things like "Oh it must take so much stress off knowing you have something else!" and "It will be just as wonderful!" and I know they are trying to be helpful but I find it SO annoying. I am heartbroken, and mad that it isn't happening the way I have spent SO MUCH time and money planning and dreaming.

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  • PrissiePants
    Dedicated May 2021
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    Our big day was scheduled for May 2nd, but we decided two weeks ago to move it to August 15th. Our prewedding events were all being canceled which was a major bummer. And then we began to worry about travel restrictions. With half our guest list, including all of my bridesmaids, coming from out of state that would be a significant issue. Plus, we had to consider the health and safety of all friends and family.

    So, while I was looking forward to the primo weather of not hot and not cold, we wanted to be able to control the situation the best we could instead of scrambling last minute.

    Thankfully, we were able to keep all of our vendors so far except for our ceremony musician. I have since been able to find a great replacement that is still within budget.

    Does it suck? Yup.

    Would it suck more for us to hold on to that date and either the government shut down events or someone get sick? Most definitely.

    August 15th will be perfect. I am sure of it.

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  • Rizza
    Just Said Yes September 2020
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    Supposed to be May 1, 2020. We were thinking of just having our own small, private ceremony but now the county offices are closed so we can’t even get a marriage license Smiley sad Highly considering postponing to December but we’ve been together for 10 years, planning for 1 year, and we just want to get married already.
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  • Keiara
    Just Said Yes May 2021
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    I’m in the same boat as you right now! We just talked to all of our vendors and they are all willing to work with us, the only thing I’m truly worried about is that our venue doesn’t want to reschedule us until guidelines get put out that far, which means we won’t have enough time for alterations and to send invitations out if we continue with our wedding! So many variables to consider!
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  • Brenda
    Just Said Yes May 2020
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    My wedding is a day after 5/31. My venue wont even give me a new date yet. I'm in NJ and a few immune compromised guest, one being his 101 year old great grandfather. All my other vendors are just waiting on the new date from me. My FH is upset might need to wait, we been together 6 years. I'm stress idk what to do and didnt even send my invites yet.
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  • Lydia
    Beginner July 2021
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    I'm so glad that I'm not alone in this. We haven't moved our June date yet, but are working on a backup plan so that we're prepared. Every morning, I used to wake up in such joyous spirits and I would spend part of each evening working joyously on details for the wedding, and every night I'd fall asleep dreaming about how perfect our day will be. Now, all of the light has been taken out of it. I've had to delete our countdown on my phone because it makes me feel sick when I look at it. I know this is out of our control and that thousands of couples are suffering along with us, but I can't help but feel so angry! It makes me even angrier when my friends/family members who are already married say "Oh, it's not about the wedding! It's about the marriage!" Like, of course it is! But that's easy for them to say. They already got their fairytale wedding. It's supposed to be our special day, and now it's all up in the air. I feel guilty because this virus is so much bigger and so much more important. The whole thing just stinks. I'm heartsick.

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