May wedding!!! help

Hey! I would honestly heavily consider moving it to August. Even if the shelter in place orders are lifted, the economy is going to need time to bounce back. I also think if you send invitations now, people will knee jerk reply no because they're not comfortable with travel and being in a large group. A lot can change in a few weeks, but I know from experience that it feels a lot better to wait some more for your date than to be constantly checking the news. Good luck! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

Kathryn is right, it's better to err on the side of caution. Definitely push to August.

View Quoted Comment Our wedding is small, Max is 20 people, for wedding and for the reception. Only 5 are from out of state, grooms mom, brother and brother wife and his 2 best friends. Everyone else lives about 15 minutes away from the venue. Even if it’s a small amount, should we try to push

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YES. I don't think you should try to push--I think you absolutely have to push! Depending on where you live, it might be illegal to host a wedding as soon as May 16. Many states are also enforcing 14-day quarantines for anyone who travels into the state. It is really not responsible to be holding a 20-person event in mid-May (I would not even hold any event whatsoever). Really sorry that this is probably not what you want to hear, but I honestly don't think a May 16th wedding is ethical or even possible at this point...

View Quoted Comment Even then. Can your FH imagine getting married without his mom there? My mom couldn't. And even with a few guests, what about the people working the wedding? What if one guest comes and doesn't realize they have it? They spread it to the other 19, plus your photographer, your caterers, the bakery staff. What if they go to visit someone without realizing? The problem is everyone without symptoms for so long but can still spread it. I guarantee your family is silently asking you to move it because they're not comfortable with the trip. Plus what if those out of town can't make the trip now? Do you really want one day to potentially cause so many people to get sick? Trust me, I was in your shoes. It will feel a lot better to have the peace of mind of everyone enjoying themselves on the day instead of avoiding each other and not relaxing. I just....I wouldn't risk it. At the end of the day it's your call, but it really feels like April and May couples need to admit that we all need to do our part and stay home. If you want your date, you can get married on that day and livestream it to everyone. The more people ignore waiting at home, the more we keep spreading the problem.

I'm sorry you're having to worry about this! I think one huge benefit to postponing is not having to wonder or worry - once you get through the work of postponing you may feel some relief at not having to wonder which of your guests or vendors may not be able to make it.

If you want a look into what other May couples are doing we're seeing a lot postponing over in this conversation - May brides and your plan of action?

May 16th bride here! We decided to do a small ceremony, just us and our parents on May 16th, and move our big wedding to December 19th. It was a hard decision that many tears were shed over, however, once I made the decision all I could feel was a relief. So much stress melted away and I felt so much better. I know this is all so hard right now, but postponing probably is your best bet.