May or September Wedding

I feel like, unless your weddings are on the exact same day, and as long as your expectations aren't too high, there's no problem with you both having your weddings in May.

Two of my friends were recently engaged and their weddings are 1 week apart. Both grooms are groomsmen in each other's wedding and neither couple is having issues with it. In fact, the 1st couple to marry is postponing their honeymoon 1 week so they can be there for the 2nd couple. If you choose to go this route, just understand that your bridesmaid won't be able to be there to do every little thing for you if that's what you expect of her.

September is really nice though. Actually, if I had not cared about waiting over a year and half to get married I would have picked September over May, but FH and I didn't want (or need) a long engagement...so May it is!

Thank you! May could be fine, I'm just worried about trying to have several bridal showers and bachelorette parties close together too, not just the wedding itself. I could see it getting kind of crazy to plan/pay for all of it at on time. Did your friends find it hard financially to deal with all of it happening at the same time? Our other best friend (we are a trifecta haha) is also going to be a MOH for both of us, and I don't want her to stress trying to plan parties for us and help us make favors/centerpieces. I would never ask my bridesmaids to make tons of stuff for me, but I know my BF will want our help making centerpieces (and I really want to help!), and I may need the same help.

Honestly, Sept would be great, I'm just really worried about the mosquitoes and the hurricanes, especially since we live on the shore. If anyone else from MD can calm my fears...maybe I'm over-reacting?

Also, congrats on your upcoming wedding! May is a beautiful month for it!

If you and your best friend have your weddings 1 at the very beginning of May and the other at the very end of May would that allow you each to be more involved with the others? Or would moving your second choice to the very end of September or early October help any with your concerns about weather and mosquitoes? The fist week of Oct. has always been a regular yearly trip for us to fish the east coast...we've seemed to dodge hurricanes ..the worst always seems to be over by then..and never had issues with bugs then because the nights seem to cool off enough they no longer seem to bother..?? just a thought

I did think about making the wedding later in September, which could work. Our colors are going to be very springy/summery, but I guess it doesn't matter that much. Do people usually judge if you have the wrong season colors? I tried to wear a bright dress to a September wedding before and was told to change by a friend because it was a "fall" wedding. Is that usual?!

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P.S. Colors really have nothing to do with the season, and they only matter to the bride. Nobody else really cares. So you're OK :-)

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Thank you for the colors advice! That makes choosing September much easier.

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Absolutely go for what's easiest. Wedding planning can be stressful without additional stuff like MoH getting married at the same time.

I feel like if you really want a May wedding, you should do the May wedding. I personally wouldn't sacrifice my dream wedding because my friend was getting married the same month. There's no reason it couldn't work out and worse case scenario is she can't be very involoved in your wedding process as she deals with her own (I wouldn't care about that--I don't expect my MOH to do anything). I live in MD and am having a September wedding. I didn't notice a mosquito issue this past September at all and as for the hurricane thing, weather can be sucky any month! Also, if you want spring colors even in September then go for it. When I'm at a wedding I couldn't care less if the colors are seasonal or not as long as everything is put together nicely!