May brides and your plan of action?

View Quoted Comment I’m in Northern California in the Sacramento area! do you live in So CAl? ☺️

View Quoted Comment No we live in NE Ohio west of Cleveland. My fiance's family live in California. He was in the Marine's, so his ex wife brought him to Ohio, that's why he live here now. He's been divorced since 2010 and we met on online in 2014, bought a home and got engaged in 2016.

View Quoted Comment Aww mine was too. I’m originally from Hawaii and may 1st is Lei day. Leis are a symbol of love, friendship, celebration, honor or greeting. Good luck to you both!

View Quoted Comment I am in the same boat as you. Not getting any younger but want to start a family. Probably going to do A justice of the peace marriage and then celebrate later. The most important part is marrying the love of your life, right? That’s what stressed me out most. I’ve been wanting to marry my fiancé for a long time and now the moment was finally coming but now not. I’m feeling so many emotions at once that I don’t even know how I feel. I’m very glad to have decided to go on this forum because I was losing my mind. I didn’t want to just keep being or feeling so depressed around people. So thank you ladies for sharing your experiences. Stay safe!

View Quoted Comment I am in the same boat as you on how you're feeling. My grandma is almost 90 and she will do anything to be here for the wedding this year. I don't want her to miss it since she is the last grandma I have left. I am in a funny situation unlike some of the brides... I am pregnant 🙊 so I do not have a lot of time left to fit into my dress that is already altered. It's either I do it next month on my day or I wait until next year. But in my full honest opinion, I'm so tired of planning this wedding. It is exhausting trying to move around dates and get everything organized. I feel guilty when I tell people that I want it on my date I had planned. I just want to start my life since this baby isn't going to be postponed lol!! Anyways, long story short I'm keeping my date even if it means I'm getting married in a backyard! I just want to be with my husband at this point and that's all that matters

View Quoted Comment Congratulations on the wedding and the baby! Yes I totally agree and would do the same. My grandfather is my last grandparent too! So this means alot to me and my grandpa! We got fortunate to be having our ceremony at the Lake and was given permission by the law director, mayor and parks and rec director to still have it as planned as long as we follow social distancing. Our reception hall is private and got permission from the owner, mayor and police department to still have it as long as we do the social distancing and it's only less then 40 guess who are close family and friends. Congratulations and I wish you and your fiance many Blessings!

Thanks for all your input guys. Its nice to know were all in a similar boat. We postponed our wedding that was supposed to be on May 16th to March 6, 2021. It sucks to wait almost another year but all of the vendors and guests were super supportive. However, the local government office called me yesterday and told me that the governor will amend his order and allow the office to issue marriage licenses via online starting next week. This got me thinking that we could still do a small legal ceremony on our original date on May 16th and then have another ceremony and the full reception in March of next year.

I liked the idea because it felt more intimate to me to have it just be my FH and I as I don't like big crowds anyway and it would take the nerves away and also it would be nice to get married on the day I had my heart set on. My father was all for it. My mother suggested to wait and do the whole thing next year but said she would support whatever we chose. My future MIL hated the idea and was appalled and horrified and asked why we were "rushing" into it, and that it wouldn't be as special next year if we "ruined" it by doing it by ourselves next month. So needless to say, this brought on a whole list of emotions. And now I'm not sure what to do...

Our original wedding date is May 16th, but we've come up with a backup date of July 10th with all of our vendors. As of right now, everything is still a go for May, but we'll be making a final decision on which date to go ahead with next week.


We still have about 20 guests who have not RSVP'd, all of which live out of state (mostly in NY) so we haven't put too much pressure on them to give us a response, but once we make our final decision on a date, we'll have to start bugging them for an RSVP if we go with our original date.
A lot of the wedding planning excitement or just excitement in general has faded for me. We've been planning our wedding for 2 years and are so close. I'm just so ready to be done planning. And now, if we end up going with our postpone date, there's a bunch of things that will change that I have to figure out/plan and I'm just not as into it. I honestly feel like I'm planning 2 wedding right now while we're in limbo. I'm sure it'll all work out the way its suppose to, but blahhhh..
Wishing you and your fiance the best as well!! 💕