Max age for ring-bearer?

Ask him if you don't care. Most boys probably wouldn't want to be a ringbearer at 12 but my cousin did at 15 and was totally happy. Depends on the kid and the wedding.

Agreed,if he wants to,go for it!!

I say it doesn't really matter it's your day and should be the people you want my ring bearer was 11 and I didn't have s flower girl I had 2 of my nephew's age 5 and 6 carry a sign that said here comes the bride. It can be however you want!

I think 13 or 14 is way too old for a ring bearer. He might say yes just because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I think an usher would be best. Why don't you give him the options and see what he would prefer?

If your fine with it and he's fine with it, than do it. It's your wedding. You can do whatever you want.

I agree with the other ladies. It is completely up to you! Go for it!

I don't think it matters. I've seen them all over the age scale.

I don't see a problem with him being the ring bearer. He may not be keen on the pillow idea, but I'm sure you can work out something that works.

like a fancy box for him to carry maybe?

When I think ring bearer I think 10 and under. I like the suggestion or giving him option of that or usher and seeing what he would like

Personally I think RBs are much cuter when they're little, but you do whatever makes you happy! FH has a little brother who is 11 and he is going to be an usher. There's no way he would want to be a RB; he'd make some comment about that being for babies or something if I were to ask him. As an 8th grader he would probably enjoy a more "grown up" role in the wedding. I know I wouldn't have wanted to be a FG when I was in 8th grade.

My son will be 8 when FH and I get married, and he is absolutely ecstatic about being our ring bearer. Typically, I would consider 8 or 9 a cutoff for it though, honestly. If you ask and he's okay with it though, then why not?