My newly engaged best friend asked me to be her matron of honor and I accepted! However, the Bride to Be recently decided to have a destination wedding. I'm very excited for them and the wedding sounds beautiful BUT there's no way I can attend. The bride is furious with me and isn't taking no for an answer. I carefully explained to her I can't go because it's ...
$3500+ For Me & my husband to go, or,
$2000+ To go alone.
That's too expensive and doesn't even include food, attire, showers, bachelorette costs, gift, Etc
A week off from working (I don't get paid vacations, so that's more money lost)
My husband is a teacher and can't take off during the school year
Ive been accepted to an internship program which will also not allow me to take days off at that time.
My husband and I are trying to start a family and we are carefully budgeting. We don't have financial room to go on fancy vacations (especially a location we would never choose)
I told her I love her and want her to have her dream wedding but It would be irresponsible for me to spend that much and also silly for me to delay my career & family goals a year just to attend her destination wedding.
I knew she'd be upset but still expected her to understand... Nope...She's furious. Bride is already blaming me for ruining her wedding bc I'm being difficult (she's only been engaged a month, wedding is in 13 months) I've NEVER seen this side of her! She was a bridesmaid in my wedding a few months ago and spent no more than $400 considering all costs (gown, travel, gifts, bachelorette, etc)
Not sure what to do... She keeps telling me I need to decide quickly because she can't Reserve the wedding date there until I can promise her I will be attending BUT
IVE ALREADY DECIDED and HAVE GIVEN MY ANSWER... Multiple times.
Can I make this easier for her in any way? How can I help her accept that I will not be able to attend her destination wedding.
Suggestion/advice are greatly appreciated!
