Married the same day different year as a sibling?

I don't think it will be a big deal. Do you think she will care? If it's not too late to change it I might ask her just to avoid any potential drama in case it bothers her.

I don't see an issue. Occasionally your anniversary plans may have to change if they have a party for a big anniversary but for the most part, people's anniversaries don't affect those around them

That’s true! Like I said we only see them around the holidays, so not very often. His sister didn’t seem to care though.

I asked a question super similar to this and everyone told me “she gets one day” so don’t overthink it. It’s their 6 year not 5, 10, 15, or 20 year.

View Quoted Comment True! However at least you know you guys will never end up having to celebrate their 20 year on your 15 or a 0 or 5 anniversary if that makes sense since they will always be 6 years ahead not 5 or 10

Ah I just check. They were actually married in 2013 not 2012. So they just celebrated their 5 year anniversary and we would be getting married on their 6th wedding anniversary. She said she doesn’t mind at all and that we can travel together for our anniversaries lol.

I dont think it's a problem. Everyone has a birthday, anniversary, etc. everyday of the year. Its impossible to pick a date where nothing important happened.

View Quoted Comment Very true. My brother and I have the same exact birthday, just 4 years apart lol. I think I’m going to just keep it. No one will no besides us and our family.

View Quoted Comment Going on anniversary trips together is a positive way to look at it! I don’t think it’s a big deal, and they don’t seem to mind. There’s only 365 days to pick from, there’s bound to be overlap sometimes.

Don't overthink it. Even at a small wedding, there's likely to be a guest who has a birthday or anniversary or some other occasion.

If anything, it's a cute little coincidence. And it's insurance for your hubby to never forget your anniversary. "Crap, it's April! What day did I get married? Better call up my sis". Your BIL is off the hook for having to come up with anniversary plans next year, so he's probably grateful, too.

View Quoted Comment Lol I loved your little jokes at the end! 🤣

Thanks everyone! I feel better about the situation. I think we are going to just keep it and go with it. No biggie!

I don't think this is a big deal at all!

I think it’s not an issue in the slightest I wouldn’t even give it a second thought

I don’t see it a problem at all. My sister got married on the same day as my aunt and uncle and they had no problem attending

FH and I are getting married on my parents 39th anniversary! I think as long as her and her husband are okay with it go for it!

Who cares? I could not tell you the date of 6 of my 8 brothers' and sisters' weddings, or the dates of more than 2 recent weddings, of the more than 60 first cousin's weddings I have been to. It is polite to write things down and maybe say happy anniversary when you see them. Or attend a 25th, 40th, other milestone party. But once your wedding is over, the date does not matter in any way to anyone else but the couple. No one owns a day forever. Set your marriage date trying not to choose the same actual DAY of a close friend or relative's wedding, if you live nearby, and many would want to go to both weddings. But birthdays, anniversaries do not matter when setting dates.

FH and I are getting married on his grandparents anniversary, and we're taking it as a sign of good luck! Our wedding will also be my uncle's 50th birthday, and so far he's really excited for the free food and booze!

I dont see the issue. We inadvertently picked the same date as my dance studio owner who is like a second mom to me. It will be her 5 yr anniversary on our wedding day. When I found out, because I'm horrible at remembering dates, I asked if she minded. Her response, 'I cant imagine anything better for my 5 yr anniversary than watching someone from my dance family get married' So we kept the date! We will be acknowledging their anniversary in some way during the reception, just not sure as to how yet.

How does his sister feel? I personally wouldn't care, I'm not a big "celebrate on the exact day no matter what regardless of anything" kind of person, and find people like that pretty annoying. BUT some people are, and if he doesn't want to hurt his sister he may want to change it. If my brother got married on our anniversary, my fiance and I wouldn't care at all.