Married ladies, share your biggest wedding day regrets

Thank goodness I have no real major regrets. There were small things that went wrong but my planner handled everything beautifully. Honestly, she kicked ass and she played a big part in our day going so well.

I do wish I had tightened up my bling belt during the reception. It looked a little droopy in guest photos. I guess that's why some girls get them sewn onto their dresses.

No pic, but I regret not remembering to put my FABULOUS green wedding shoes back on for the garter removal.

Oh and not having a videographer, if only for an hour.

Not having a videographer

OMG Tiffany! 77 NO SHOWS? Wow! So sorry to hear that. If I haven't learned anything else, Find a videographer. Take great pictures and get a DOC............a great one! Great stuff, keep it coming ladies!

My biggest regret is not paying for a videographer at the reception.... I so wish we could watch the videos over and over again of the night and all our guests!

I honestly have none! I am an over-achiever and too prepared typically, but I also cut out tons of stuff that would add more stress and to-dos.

Perhaps I wish I'd have tried on my dress without a bra before the day of - it ended up working best without one and I could have saved myself the hassle of shopping so much for the perfect bra.

My only regret is not making a clear list of the DJ. He got the wrong song for the mother/son dance because he thought I ment a song with the same name by a different artist. Fortunately my MIL likes the song that they played, but for me it took away from those dances.

Also I had told him in person not to play Blurred Lines, but he must have forgotten because he played that song. Ugh. My husband and I hate that song.

Overall those were minor things, so I can't complain. My advice is be very clear about what songs you want, don't want, and any special songs make it very clear what the song is.

Chelsea: do you have pictures of those centerpieces?

I wish I had made a very detailed list of photos I wanted for my photographer. Our pictures are great and I love them, but I feel like there are some pictures I really wanted and didn't get. He only asked for a list of family pictures and not anything else. I should have given him a full list.

No big regrets. We had a few hiccups here and there, but nothing noticeable to guests. Our wedding was pretty perfect.

Mine were very me-specific, so probably no help to you: my mom got dreadfully sick the night before, and we left the wedding, went home and changed, and then went to visit her. Looking back, I really wish we'd gone straight to the hospital-- both so she could have seen me all done up, and also cause DH brought it up for *years* that my sister came with us back to our apartment when we changed-- apparently, he thought we were going to walk in the door and get dirty-- as if we hadn't been 'practicing' for nine years already!

That's it, though.

Oh, and have whoever picks up the flowers count the corsages/bouts-- I have seen a surprising number of people say they were short one. We were, but as my mom missed the wedding, we turned her corsage into a bout.

I would have liked to have a smaller guest list. DH has a HUGE extended family and we ended up with about 140 when we had originally wanted no more than 65 because we couldn't risk offending family Y when we had invited family X. So I remember looking around during the evening and thinking "who are you people?".

But if the worst that I can come up with is that too many people wanted to share our wedding day with us, then I guess I was pretty lucky!

Oh - pre-wedding warning to DW brides: double and triple check your visa requirements. I wish I had checked for myself and not taken someone's advice - it was wrong and I didn't have the correct visa for a non-EU citizen getting married in the UK. I was detained by immigration for 7 hours and was fingerprinted and had my passport seized. Then had to leave the country to apply for the visa so I could re-enter. I really didn't need that a week before my wedding day.

Everything will take longer than you think.....EVERYTHING. Don't miss your reception because your MUA, shuttle, first look, ceremony or photos make you late.

I second the Day Of Coordinator and the specific pictures of what you want beforehand because everything happens so fast and you can't recreate that day. I kinda also second the "trust your gut about people" tip. As much as we try to be optimistic about our expectations of how people may behave on a wedding day of all days, a leopard can't change its spots and people sometimes don't step up their game for weddings...

Mine is more personal than a tip for you. I invited my friend's parents out of pressure. I regret it. They ended up doing little "petty" things that I believe affected my small intimate wedding. Such as moving around the chocolate in the flute favors to their preference, taking home Polaroids that were supposed to be left in the guestbook and just being overall kinda "too comfortable" and as though the wedding reception meal was a "free for all". If I would have listened to my gut/heart I would have stayed on my stance of having a small wedding and not have invited them. It probably would have spared the regret that I feel now. I know it could be a lot worse, but I kind of kick myself for budging on my stance. Weddings do wear down your will and common sense sometimes; at least it did for me!

Make sure someone in your bridal party knows how to bustle your dress.

I wish I was able to enjoy my wedding shoes more. DH bought me these cute Pool Blue high heels to match our wedding colors, and I didn't last a good hour in them. I wore them during our pictures, and after they were over, I switched into my flats. I also regret not getting a chance to take a picture with my grandmother. I have a picture of her from the wedding, I just don't have one of her and I together.

This is a minor thing but I regret not having my mom make up a list of photos she wanted done. I sent our photographer one and thought that was covered, but my MIL showed up with a list (and knew our photographer), so I think my mom felt a little left out.

One thing that I'm super happy we have that I didn't even realize (or ask for) at the time is that my photographer got some great pictures of people dancing, especially my grandparents. DH and I gave them a photo of them dancing and another one of all their grandchildren. My grandfather passed away at the end of June, and my grandmother told me yesterday that she looks at the photo of them dancing every day and it's the last photo she has of him where he was pretty healthy and happy. I'm really glad our photographer got those pics, even though I hadn't thought to add them to my list.

I had a massive bridal party. While I love and appreciate everyone that participated, I'm regretful that I allowed certain girls to be BM's, out of obligation. They're my cousins, we all grew up together like sisters, and I didn't want some to feel left out if I didn't give them the option to participate. Over the course of the last three years, we just haven't connected the same as we used to. Since the wedding, unfortunately, I've stopped all communications with two of them already because of unnecessary drama. I should've just followed my gut.