Married gals.. did you feel different after the wedding?

I don't expect it to change at all. Did you feel different after you got engaged? If so maybe it'll be that but more after the wedding. I didn't feel any different after we got engaged. The only change was that we had a wedding to plan.

Not married yet... But i do hear people say that *something* changes after you get married. Nobody can ever say what or how it changes. FH and I will have been together for 10 years and living together for 8 at that point... Not sure i understand what will change. I guess we'll see! Curious to see if other posters can explain it.

I really don't think that anything should change. If you already live together like us then really it's just a legal document and a name change.

Following. My brother said things changed for him

Nothing much changed with me except a feeling of being closer? Hard to explain but that's about it

@Amy D, yea I hear you I've been with my FH for 10yrs and we purchased our first home 3 years ago. And besides that everyone he works with calls me his wife

@TankTank we bought a home 2 years ago too! When we announced our engagement there were a lot of people who thought we were already married lol

We've been living together for the last two years, and just recently bought a house. So we are already pretty "established" I suppose, I imagine we will be more comfortable I guess. There's no "oh we had an argument, maybe they'll want to break up" granted, that doesn't really happen for us anyway because we are good at talking things out. The permanence of it all excites me and overwhelms me.

It was really different for us, but we lived two hours apart before we got married. My son and I moved in with H after the wedding. So pretty much everything changed at that point. I know that's not the case with most people, and I don't really know how much different it would have felt after the wedding if we were already living together.

We didn't live together prior to the wedding but was together for 8 years. I didn't think it would feel different but it does. I did take his last name after much internal debate but, it feels different for me. Not only living together but, actually being a unit made it different for me.

I was thinking about this the other day..we've been together for 7 years we actually get married 27 days after our 8 year anniversary of being together. I feel like the only thing that could change is like a spiritual kind of change? Feeling a little closer? Now your not just a couple. You are husband and wife and the spiritual commitment behind 2 people becoming 1. Is wonderfyl.......?....maybe. lol

I personally do feel slightly different. It feels more permanent. I feel more secure and confident. Husband has been more affectionate too which is nice.

Well we don't live together so yeah, I'm sure it'll feel different when we're actually living together.

It feels different. A new level of responsibility. When I make decisions I think abkit how they'll affect him. When I spend money I think about the budget more than before lol. I do feel more settled like PP said.

I'm expecting it all to change. FH and I do not live together. His 3 kids and my 1 will be moving into the house we are having built 5 days after the wedding. We have been going back and forth between two houses for 3.5 years now.

I sure hope it will feel different! We live 5 hours away from each other right now. I am so excited to finally be able to be together and not have to say goodbye at the end of the day. I'm excited to do the daily things together and make big decisions together. Have kids someday. Make dinner together after work. I'm just excited to spend every day with my best friend.

At first, I didn't think much was different but slowly I began to notice what was. A few things changed but one major thing stands out. The way we argued. It became much more constructive, we had more of a mind on finding a solution and less with getting butthurt over dumb things. I think it's because you know that the argument won't end in "why are you with me then?" Or whatever kind of insecurities come out when you argue while dating. You're more tactful about what you say and how you say it during an argument.

Because you've made that commitment, things just get easier; you feel more content, more settled, more at ease. I feel closer to him now because of the permanence and the promises we made to each other, and I feel like we understand each other better now which I didn't think was possible but it turned out it was. We are more in tune to each other's needs. Also there's more of a responsibility to one another as everything is now shared, not in the way that a parent is responsible for a child but somewhat similar. It's an "I want to and I need to take care of you" but on both sides.

It did take us a little while to get into the swing of things, which I found out was common, so a word of advice is just to watch out for putting expectations on what marriage will bring the two of you. Make sure to talk about your expectations now and hash them out thoroughly. I thought we had done a good job of going over that before marriage but we ran into some issues/hurt feelings due to unmet expectations. I was reading that it is VERY common for that to happen right after the wedding/honeymoon, even in very healthy and communicative relationships.

We have also noticed others taking us more seriously, like my extended family, for example. They talk to us like we're "real adults" now and not "the kids". Even though I'm 27 and he's 26, the older people in my family, like aunts and uncles, still saw us as two kids dating. I guess it's hard for them to shake that feeling even after someone grows up when they still remember changing your diapers? Now that we're married, it's like we entered this new realm of adulthood lol.

Not a single thing has changed. We owned our house for 5 years already, and our relationship has been settled and permanent for years, our finances have been merged, we made joint decisions, consulted each other before doing anything etc. I honestly didn't need a wedding, we were just as committed to one another before as we are after. The wedding/marriage was mostly to legally protect one another and celebrate with friends and family. Then, business as usual.

We just got married last week and it really hasn't hit me yet.. I wake up every day completely in love with my husband and I can't wait for all our future days, weeks, months and years together. Maybe when we have children it'll feel different but now it's just our love, stronger than ever. =)

We've been married less than a month so can only speak of this short time so far. Nothing big really feels different. We moved in together shortly after we met so this has been the norm for us almost always. We both get a little giddy when we hear each other referred to as husband/wife. We are very much more relaxed with each other now because we're no longer planning a wedding and have a lot more free time to talk about things that aren't related to a wedding. We're both oddly wanting to try harder to get a healthier lifestyle now (not sure why it took us a wedding to internally realize this) but to the point we both want to eat better and take care of our health more. This is obviously a good change and I think it's because we both feel responsible for each other now more than ever.