married bridesmaids...

Throw out all your "rules"! They don't exist! Ask the people that matter to you, and don't worry about the titles. None of this is true. Ask whoever you want!

Well, I'm not calling the ettiquette police to arrest you...

About your MOH and BIL groomsman- I'd talk to them about it. I'd be more comfy walking with my own man then someone else. Maybe she'd step down to a bridesmaid so she can walk with her hubby, or maybe her hubby can walk her anyway and just go to his place in line.

I just heard about this married bridesmaids "rule." where do they come up with this stuff!?!

Who knows....I'm married and I'm about to be a MOH.

I'll be married and will be in 3 weddings in the next year, all occuring after mine. No one will care if they are married. If you jsut heard the rule, and most of us haven't- I'm guessing your guests aren't going to pull out the rule book and point fingers.

We didn't have the men walk the women in... The men were up in front with the groom, and the women walked in alone....So, there was no problems with couple's pairing up for my wedding.

We also had a married couple stand up, but they were not "equals" Best man's and Bridesmaid - so they didn't match up after the ceremony when they were walking out. I don't think you need to change their titles just so they walk down with their spouse. Either let them walk alone, or walk in with their spouse... nothing wrong with a little shift when they get to the alter so they are in the correct order standing near you.

We didn't do a wedding party dance.. but if we did... I would have let the married couple dance together, and had the Maid of Honor dance with the left over Groomsman.

And, if the maid of honor is already married, her title is Matron of Honor.

She says Matron of Honor makes her feel "like an old lady," but likes Mrs. of Honor.

I havent heard of this rule and I'm sure most others havent either.

So I doubt it will be a big deal.

And as for "rules" ... forget them. Its your weedding and you can do it however you want.

Although I do like Meghan's idea of him walking her down the isle anyway, if you do want to go by the rule.

Mrs. of Honor it is then!

It should be fine, these rules shouldn't matter. I was an MOH last month, the best man was a married man, his wife was even in the wedding party, everything was fine. They did have a Matron and another best man who were actually married to each other.

Although I have not heard the rules but come to think of it, I've never recall a married woman being a bridesmaid in the weddings I've attended, they were either a maid of honor or matron, I wonder if that was the reason...umm

I dont' think it matters and I'm sure your Sister and BIL will be fine walking with whomever its not like you have to kiss the person...

@Hayley or anyone else who knows what do you call the MOH if she was married but is now divorced.. is she still Matron or does she now become a Maid???

My matron of honor and 2 bridesmaids are all married and the husbands are not in the wedding. They'll be walking with friends of the groom while their husbands sit in the "audience". We are doing a sweetheart table for ourselves so they'll be seated with their spouses during the reception.

I have two married BMs. And the best man's wife is a BM, but not Maid of Honor so she will be walking w/my cousin (another GM). Don't think they have to walk together because they are married.

Also is there a rule about not having married BMs in the wedding? I didn't know that one.

As of right now I have two bridesmaids, and one is married, and I have no MOH yet (thinking about promoting one of the BM's), so I am sure I'm breaking some rules but I really don't care. lol

All but one of BMs were married, so was my MOH. Honestly if all BMs had to be unmarried I would have had one person in my wedding. Leaving my BFFs to the side. When it comes to weddings the only "rules" that you have to follow are the ones you make!!

It doesn't matter (unless it matters to them). My BM's and 1 GM are married (or have significant others but they aren't in the bridal party. My aunts (BM's) are joking that they'll be matched up with the young studs.

Not that I know off. My friend that got married last year her maid of honor was married, as well as one of her BM's was married. And this same friend will be one of my BM. So I don't see the issue or why it would matter if they are married. You chose them because they are special to you

Wow, really? I've never heard of this. Probably got started by some crazy etiquette person. Do it however you want. I'm sure no one in the wedding party will mind. Or do as was mentioned earlier, have the groomsmen already standing w/ the groom & only have your bridesmaids walk. It seems it would be easiest this way.

Huh....both of my BM are married. Oh well!

If that's a legit rule, eventually people aren't going to have anybody in bridal parties!

Have married, unmarried people, who ever you think and feel should be up there with you!