Married bridesmaids who isn’t happy with my color choice

That is pretty ridiculous. I’m not sure how to deal with that, but I’m sorry that you dealing with something so stupid, really lol. She’s the only one in the world that can have green? Why does she feel like you are stealing it? And if she was a good friend she would want you to be happy. You gotta talk to her I think, maybe she doesn’t realize how ridiculous she’s being? Do you have any mutual friends that can help her realize it. What a way to ruin your fun.

Maybe she’s just upset she didn’t get to have a “Traditional” wedding.....

What's ironic is it feels like she may be green with envy over your traditional wedding! If a.) you didn't know b.) she isn't planning on having an actual wedding in the near future, your totally justified. I agree with OP, maybe there is another bridesmaid/mutual friend or someone who can affirm that she doesn't have the right to reserve the color (or any other wedding related choices!!!) indefinitely

I'm sorry to say this about your longtime friend however she sounds awful and utterly draining to be around. I would have to put her in her place immediately about her narcissistic behavior and if she can't support you without bringing up her own non-existent wedding, then you probably need to scrap her.

I can hear her now. You: So I am thinking we are going to do sunflowers for the bouquets. Her: Omg, I was going to use sunflowers and now I can't because you are. You: I am having an 8 tier elderflower flavored cake with berry mousse, fresh berries and crunch filling with rainbow colored ombre, unicorn sparkle dust and pearl beading on the trim. Her: NO fair I was going to have.... you get the point. Good luck to you!

It would bum me out also. Takes away from the excitement. Keep your colour and don’t give in to her BS lol and you always have us to vent to!

I'm so sorry. She is obviously jealous because she eloped and didn't have the traditional wedding, but that doesn't mean she can claim a color. Even if she had a traditional wedding, she would still have no right to be upset with you for picking the color you want. Stick with what you want. I can say from experience that my brother-in-law's wife had told me their wedding color was going to be dark red and she planned on having the girls in red dresses with red roses. That's exactly what my husband and I had planned. She knew this when she told me as we got engaged two days apart and had talked about the weddings after we got engaged. They got married 6 weeks after us so I planned on changing our wedding colors. I went through Pinterest and picked out totally different colors. A few days later she messaged me that she switched colors. Her color was now dark green. It was very pretty. I ended up going back to red as one of our colors since that's the color I originally wanted. The only reason I wanted to change was because of how close our weddings were and that my husband's side of the family would have been at both and I didn't want his family comparing weddings.

Who cares! I am sure there are thousands and thousands of other brides that have dark green dresses too...she doesnt sound like a best friend if she can't put on a face and be happy for you.

I'm sorry that she has made you worry about this. This is totally silly to me as well. No one can claim a color. My cousin used the exact colors I want to use for my wedding (I was engaged first and told her about them) and it made me realize how much I love them! I like them so much and actually like that others find them beautiful as well. I agree with what others have said, it just sounds like jealousy to me....

Hmmmm. I haven't read anyone else's responses....but I think there's more to it than wedding colors. It sounds like she eloped because of her husband's wishes but really wished she could have had a wedding. I'm sure it's painful for her to see you planning an actual wedding when she so wishes she'd had one, or that she was planning one. While I can understand her feelings quite frankly that's not your problem. I suspect you feel awkward because of her underlying issues around not getting a wedding herself.

How to solve it? I really don't know. I can only say I was in a number of weddings in my 30's and while I was so wishing I could find "the one" but I hadn't yet, I sucked it up and was there for my friends. Not everyone is able to do that.

Best of luck! Oh, and keep your color scheme the way you want it! No backing down.