FAWN
Dedicated October 2020

Married - 10/03/2020 Just about everything did not go as planned.... its okay tho

FAWN, on November 4, 2020 at 11:45 AM Posted in Married Life 3 23
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So a list of things that went wrong....

Groom was clearly buzzed at the alter being left for a few hours with his best buds while getting ready.

We had a backyard wedding. Only half guest showed up. most left within 1/2 hour after ceremony due to weather.

Groom procrastinated getting dance floor done until that morning, which made me behind on my plansto get ready. he also had to go get a haircut.

No sun,, just dark clouds.

Started to rain during the ceremony

48-50 degree weather (cold)

No one ever used the tent , tables and chairs we rented. Everyone huddle in the nasty garage i wanted closed but that's where the groom placed food and alcohol.

we never cut the cake ( Groom was not interested, just the keg) So we let the kids cut the cake and eat what they wanted.

I didnt get to eat ( mother in law saved a plate for me in the house) everyone ate right after the ceremony and left while we was gone 20minutes getting pictures.

we did not toast.

we did not have a garter toss/ flower toss- no one there to catch anyways.

first dance almost didnt happen. Grooms best friend had to talk him into it, was more worried about dancing with his mother. and first dance half way through his family joined in and i left the floor for hima nd his best man/brother to finish themselves.

grooms family kinda took over family pictures with groom.. i barely got any of my side.

the photographer was cheap you get what you pay for, ( she was starting out) angles were all jacked up, would not pose us tell us what to do. backfat and double chins galore. everything off center. no one centered. the guys kept giving the groom wedges during pictures extremely dark had to lighten them all. (ill post a seperate forum for this example)

where we were to walk out was changed by the officiant. all my pictures walking out have a white van from the DJ in back ( looks like a peddy van) non one told him to move it. i literally drove into my front yard and walked to the alter

I was 20 minutes late, mom showed up late to help get me ready. i had less then an hour. never got to do my hair i literally just snapped in my extensions and a feather clip. My makeup was done less then regular days i do it. i pretty much looked like normal day with a white dress on.

groom uncles dog was running around the yard interrupting the ceremony and pictures.

My daughter who was to do video on her good camera.. didnt happen the small SD card fell out of the big one, so no video other then phone videos bummer... not all guest have parted ways with what they captured.

Maybe I'm over thinking this..... and maybe my complaints are petty... whoever did show up said it was a nice wedding.... but we are married.

( pictures i edited myself )


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the guys

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best man

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siblings

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our kids and only family picture

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me and my parents

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My rushed cake ( you can buy tubs of frosting from the Sam's club bakery for 20 and alot left over! Kids thought the pine cones were chocolate.. they were not

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best man and sister

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Junior brides maid and groomsmen

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flower girl and ring bearer

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the groom watching me walk up.... and best man telling him he still has time to run

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me stressing the hell out


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this was really a blur.. i remember nothing , thank god for pictures

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this was my own pose

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him being forced to take pics lol

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we had a small moment

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my best friend

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I told him to fifty shades of grey me and this is what i got lol

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mother son dance ... i got no father daughter dance.

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best man giving husband a wedgy non stop

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beard socks need i say more

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dark first dance picture

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the rest of grooms family joined in the middle of first dance

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23 Comments

Latest activity by RaylaSan, on November 7, 2020 at 10:29 PM
  • Sarah
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    Congratulations beautiful pictures
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Oh no, I'm sorry to hear many things didn't go as planned. The most important thing was accomplished: you married your life partner. Xoxo
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  • FAWN
    Dedicated October 2020
    FAWN ·
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    Yes we are! honestly i feel we all put more into weddings then need to be.. we all have this vision... of beautiful sunsets, warm weather, a flawless schedule. perfect photos and videos, ...... reality is .. it is what it is. No amount of money or preparing and ideas in your head are what it will turn out to be lol. was not what i planned, nor what i visioned... but i do have a really great husband who loves me and i love him and in the end that all that really matters. It could have been worse LOL I defiantly remember it, except for the vows... those are a blur and happened way too fast for my mind to comprehend.

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  • Lisa
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    Congratulations!! Great pictures!
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  • A
    Super September 2020
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    Wow... lol I don’t think I could have handled my husband acting like that at our wedding... I’m so sorry you went through this.
    Best wishes 🤍
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  • Molly
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    Congratulations! I love your decor! I don't think a wedding counts unless something goes wrong lol.

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  • Katie
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    Omg im totally with you. I don't ever control my fiance, but with the wedding I already told him the night before the wedding and the morning of the wedding no alcohol no matter what. And I told him he better not drink at our wedding like it's his bachelor party. I get that it's our wedding and we should celebrate, however my fiance likes to over indulge then he gets sick and becomes so very miserable and good luck getting him to do anything after that point. I told him to live it up at his bachelor party because we need to make it on our wedding day from 3:30 to 11. I told him if he wanted to do a small shot just to calm his nerves a little fine but nothing else. I also told him if he wanted to drink it up after all the important stuff is done that's totally fine.


    I'm sorry it didn't go as planned.
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  • FAWN
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Its all good.... yeah thats why i wanted the garage off limits.... he didnt have a bachelor party out of respect for me. he does over indulge at times.

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  • Yasmine
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    Congratulations on your marriage

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  • Erin
    Expert May 2021
    Erin ·
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    You looked great though!! i am SOOO sorry for the way he acted.... i have nightmares about my own wedding for the little things that u mentioned!!

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  • Jai
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    Congrats your photos looks great ! Sorry it didnt go as planned , that happens sometimes. You did the best you could
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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
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    Congrats!! Im sorry for the mishaps. Regardless, you look very happy and in love in your photos Smiley smile what I don’t understand is: why did his family join your first dance?! That’s so rude Smiley sad and why didn’t you get a father daughter dance? Did you not have a say in the matter or who was running the timeline?
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  • A
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    I'm sorry not everything went as planned! I would be super frustrated too....it sounds like you are an organized person, and a lot of the elements you planned didn't happen as you thought they would. Honestly, I didn't see any back fat or double chins or anything like that in any of the photos! I even went back and re-read what you wrote after looking at the pics, and I was like "wait, WHO had back fat or double chins?!?" I definitely noticed the dark first dance picture, but when it comes to the other stuff, I think sometimes we're our own worst critics. From the pics, it seems like you guys have a beautiful, tight-knit family, and that's a wonderful thing! And ok let's talk about y'all's couple pics!!!! Gorgeous!!! And omg y'all need to frame the one where it's captioned "we had a small moment"....that one should go in a magazine!!

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  • FAWN
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    OH i already photoshopped those out ( backfat and double chins) you wont see those in there... ill make another post about that later with the original lol

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  • Ajj
    Savvy May 2021
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    Congratulations you rocked it. Now the fun part... you’re married!!!!
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Congratulations Fawn!! So many things can easily go wrong on the wedding day (I was surprised by a hurricane, we lost power while getting ready, and my cake was painted brown instead of gold Smiley xd ) - but it's the love and your friend and family coming together that matters! Smiley heart

    From your pictures I wouldn't have known how many mishaps there were, and you look so beautiful!! I love the ceremony arch and floral decor, and I think your cake is super cute! Smiley love

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  • Meagan
    Devoted October 2020
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    You looked so beautiful!! and looking at the pictures you would have no idea that there were any mishaps! I've always heard that mishaps give a wedding character and I definitely say we had a few as well! Way to make the best of a difficult situation and celebrate marrying your best friend!

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  • Jasmin
    Savvy July 2021
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    Beautiful 😍 with all that went wrong it looks like yu and everyone enjoyed themselves at the end of the day
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  • Cory
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Love your bouquet!!
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Congrats!

    I'm sorry you felt things went wrong, but you look great!

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