Marriage proposal

That’s a convo you can come up by saying what he thinks about marriage, where he sees your relationship going, etc

View Quoted Comment Because for some reason I noticed that he acts different like doing things that get me jeolous on purpose does any of this seem familiar ?

View Quoted Comment We’ve been dating for 3 years

But I don’t know what’s taking him so long to ask me I’m not into going to get my nails done like that maybe after I have the ring already go paint my nails because I don’t like fake nails

I had a feeling my husband was going to propose but I was still caught my surprise of when he actually did it. However we spoke for a while about when to get engaged and stuff. Have you guys talked about getting engaged and married or what your timelines or progression of your relationship is?

View Quoted Comment Yes we already have but he says he’s waiting on divorce papers but We already been together 3 years and I’m 36 years old I just wish we would get married already

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I would not say that doing things that make you jealous is a positive indicator that he is going to propose. This is more of a red flag in a relationship.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for ur advice

It’s not something you can really predict. I’ve been with my FH for 6 years this past April and for most of our relationship, marriage was really not his thing, for past reasons. We had actually had a huge fight the middle of April and April 30th the day after my birthday he took me to NYC and I didn’t even dress up because I honestly had no clue that he was going to ask me to marry him. I knew we were getting closer to the whole engagement thing but I didn’t see it happening so fast. I also didn’t foresee him letting me plan a wedding right away but he did so it’s different with everyone and especially if there’s issues in their past they make them scared. For some it takes a lot of built of trust and time to make that commitment. Talk to
Him about it and see where he stands. Like I said mine was always no go because my step kids mom had admit to tons of cheating after they got engaged and that was something going on for years considering my oldest step is going into middle school. He had been abandoned his whole life and hurt so it took some time for him to be like okay, not all women are bad in the end and we are very happy besides the covid stuff so I always say anything is possible too... people feel certain ways but a little TLC over time can help!

My husband and I talked about marriage very early in our relationship. It wasn't a matter of "if" it was "when".
He had my ring for a year before he proposed. But, we talked about marriage all the time. I received a promise ring after two months of dating.I personally liked that he surprised me when proposing. Even though I just had a feeling that he would. Maybe that is your situation too?
We were together two years before he asked. Do you talk about your Hope's and dreams for the future? I think at this point , you would have to know his feelings on marriage in general. That is a tricky thing, you don't want to pressure him, but you need to know where you stand, because it's not fair to wait for someone that may not be having the same thoughts about marriage that you are.I hope it works out for you, in the near future!

View Quoted Comment Thank you and yes we have talked about it but I think he’s stalling I think it’s time for me to move on but I’m kind of scared I’m a way that something can go bad but I can’t be waiting on him you know

I agree with Anna. When we started dating I made sure he also wanted to get married and have kids. I was burned in my previous relationship so I needed to be sure. Then it was a matter of when, but last year we were walking our dog and he randomly asked me what my 5 year plan was. Told him it was hopefully married, kids, our forever home, a great job. And somehow, we were planning a wedding, no ring! I had to work out of the country all summer, and when I returned he had surprised me with a ring


Just talk to him and see what his plans are for you two!

View Quoted Comment You are right. He may be stalling because he may not be ready. You have to take care of yourself, and if you want to get married, and he doesn't...he should set you free so that you can find who you are looking for.
Good luck! I would just have an honest conversation and see if you are on the same page , if not you are right to move on and live your life.
Take care!

It sounds to me like you two need to sit down and have a conversation. There is a big difference between (1) waiting for him to propose because you know it’s happening but not sure how soon (i.e. I knew my partner would propose because we bought the ring together! He proposed 6 months later to try catch me off guard to surprise me, but I was so impatient the whole time!) and (2) waiting for him to propose but not knowing if he actually intends to or not.

As you said yourself OP, you have been together for 3 years and you are 36 so you want things to get moving. If you want children (and in particular want to be married first) then things definitely need to start rolling. Have you talked about marriage? Do you know that he wants to get married? If so, I would try talk to him and tell him your timeline and see if he is on the same page.

I think you should sit down and talk to your BF and he's probably not going to ask you to marry him until he's fully divorced. But you've made many comments in other posts that your therapists has told you to move on and that he's still married and won't start the process until he goes back to Mexico. Again, this are all things you should be communicating with your BF first.

I would honestly just talk to him about it. When I met my FH we just knew and just had this feeling that we would end up together. He was previously engaged before he met me bur was being pressured by his GF at the time and wasn't really ready. He said a month in that he wanted to marry me and we started talking about our future together. When a man knows what he wants and tells you what his intentions are like that, it was a huge surprise for me considering how he got burned in the past. But I said I'm not going to pressure him. He knows I want the same thing and he will do it on his time when he's ready. We have been together 3.5 years. Now, if you feel like he isn't going to do it or is dragging his feet or whatever is preventing him and you feel like you need to move on, just talk to him see where he stands and do what is best for you.

I think there are usually signs someone is going to propose- asking about or pointing out rings, talking about the future etc.

Thats something you nd him should have spoken bout ...however a proposal should be a surprise you wont know

I would honestly give him time. Patience is a virtue and good things come to those who wait. Obviously he can’t marry you as his divorce sounds like it hasn’t even started to process. It may be worthwhile to have a conversation with him to let him know how you feel. If you’re having feelings of leaving him to be with someone else that is concerning and is a red flag.
As someone else said, he should not feel pressured in making this decision.

View Quoted Comment I think instead of worrying about a proposal that you should have a serious talk with him and see if yalls plans for yalls future are on the same page. I agree with others that if he is doing things to make you jealous or make you feel uncertainty that those are red flags. Also, a proposal nor marriage will make relationship problems disappear so if yall are having struggles within the relationship yall need to see if yall can find a resolution or move foward. I would personally have a talk and see where his head is and what yall should do moving foward but at this time it seems that a proposal and marriage shouldn't be a top priority right now. I am sorry you are going through this and I hope that yall are able to move foward and that you can have your dream wedding and be happy. Good luck to you!