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Marriage First... Wedding Later

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Sheila, on March 3, 2014 at 9:38 AM

Hi I'm a newlywed who married her high school sweetheart on our 11 year anniversary. We were both 25 working full time, going to school and living on our own. We have had tough few years financially. But after 11 years we finally decided to get married so we did 10/29/2013. But we went to a court house with are family and said our " I Do's " we both agreed that for now this was all we could afford. Our dream wedding would be in ocean city, MD on the beach our favorite place. However now the hubby is concerned that it would be asking to much of our family to come to see us do a spiritual ceremony on the beach. Saying our I DO's on the beach and then dancing the night away with my family and friends was both our dream. Also I should mention my family is completely on board and supportive. However I think he might be nervous of the comments we might get from his family. I want to fulfill our dream I know if we don't I will regret it.... Any advice???? Please be nice....

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Devoted August 2014
LA girl · on March 3, 2014 at 2:35 PM
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I say go for it. I am already legally married to my "FH" but it's because his mom had cancer, was given only weeks to live and it was one of her last wishes. So we threw together a simple wedding in a week and a half. We were holding our breath the entire week, hoping that she would make it to the day. She did and it was a beautiful.

That being said, the day was all for her. Of course I didn't mind but we didn't get to say personal vows, I got married in a place of worship not my own, and many of our friends and family couldn't attend on short notice -- including my own grandmother and brother. So yes, we are already married but we are going to have a ceremony in August, and yes, most all guests coming already know this and understand the circumstances. If it's what you want to do and your family supports it, then do it!
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Sheila · on March 3, 2014 at 2:54 PM
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Maybe I should clarify we have been dating for 11 years Oct 29/2013 was when we got married at the court house and are talking about doing something next year in the spring.
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Super June 2014
Crystal · on March 3, 2014 at 3:12 PM
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You should call it what you want and do what you want to make you happy and not worry what others say or think. We got legally married for military reasons on the beach with our parents, but already had a wedding date set. We are still having a wedding and calling it that. Most people don't know we're married. We're having a ceremony in a chapel with the same Chaplin that legally married us and then a reception afterwards.
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Sheila · on March 3, 2014 at 3:40 PM
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Thanks everyone encouraging me to make my dreams come true the hubby is on board we are just going to be careful on the wording and maybe once we pick invitations I'll run it by all of you helpful ladies !!! Thanks it's so nice to be able to get advice from you all !!!
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Master July 2014
Anisea · on March 3, 2014 at 5:22 PM
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Call it a fam reunion beach week with a vow renewal party
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Devoted August 2015
Liz Ann · on March 3, 2014 at 5:27 PM
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I say go for it!
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Ab · on March 3, 2014 at 6:13 PM
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You do what you like/call it what you want..I say this because it's pretty clear that you did not hide the fact that you already got married at the court house. If family members think it's too much or pointless then they can stay home.
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