There are a bunch of people that didn’t make the invite list due to numbers...both my FH and I have remarried parents which significantly impacts our numbers. I spent half my childhood with my dad being remarried and I love my stepmom and step brother...but had we opened up the invite to extended step family, it would have meant inviting 30+ more people. If we added that and everyone RSVP’d yes we would be above our max capacity. But many that were invited would have to travel out of state so 100% attendance was unlikely.
We ultimately played it safe and excluded them which hurt my step mom’s feelings. (and we did invite direct aunts/uncles/cousins). We only invited immediate step and step grandma... In addition to the extended step family, there are another ~40 people (family friends, 2nd cousins, etc) that may care to know that we are married, and many are older and not on Facebook.
Curious about your thoughts on marriage announcement cards after the wedding to that group of people? Tacky or thoughtful? I am worried about it being seen as a gift grab and am hesitant...but trying to brainstorm a way to mitigate any hurt feelings and let those left out know that we had them in mind but couldn’t swing the numbers of people...They are extended enough to where phone calls would feel weird but we did spend a handful of Christmases and family gatherings together...
