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Devoted September 2013

Maid of Honor & Plus One Dilemna

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Norcal Bride, on July 22, 2013 at 2:03 PM

My maid of honor lives in another state. I am having a small wedding and she is my only attendant. When I invited her she had a brand new boyfriend, so I just sent the invitation to her. Since then she has decided to invite him, but has asked me to extend him an invitation as he is old fashioned and thinks I don't want him to come. I have met him twice. I told her I would, but thought if he was her plus one she could just ask him. Since then he said he would need to bring his 2 kids as he had them that weekend. I told her unfortunately I couldn't accommodate as we are on a tight budget. She emailed again today saying she had to figure out how to ask and maybe I could call him. I finally blew up and told her he was stressing me out and he could come or not come. She emailed saying we shouldn't talk until next week and that I was just being obnoxious and self centered and needed to chill out. Not sure what to do now. Do I let it all go?

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May · on July 22, 2013 at 5:17 PM
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You can be stubborn all you want, it's your wedding! I think the whole situation is ridiculous. Why would he expect to be able to bring his kids, and why does he need a personal invitation. I wouldn't even touch the matter anymore, just tell your MOH she has a plus ONE and bring whoever she wants, and that you're not dealing with it anymore. Somewhat related--my BM is marrying a dude she's known for 3 months, so now I'll look like a B if I don't put him on the invite, too. The situations you come across when planning a wedding are ridiculous. I never would have believed any of these stories if someone told me a few years ago!
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Devoted September 2013
Norcal Bride · on July 22, 2013 at 5:24 PM
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The bummer is she got to tell me off and not to contact her until next week. Now in her eyes I'm the crazy bridezilla who is being unreasonable and selfish. I think I could let the rest go, but she created the situation with the BF and now she's putting it off on me like I'm the crazy one. Since they are coming from out of town, I hope he doesn't come. She is coming the Thursday before the wedding, and I'm not sure what he will do when she and I do things like yoga, get our nails and toes done and run in the morning before the wedding. I certainly don't want him tagging along, and I don't want to pawn him off on my FH. This whole situation is ridiculous. Not sure why weddings have to bring out the drama in people. I promised myself I wouldn't be one of those brides.
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