So my wonderful maid of honor is a lesbian & does not wear dresses. Ever.
She and I have been planning that she wear a suit, my family does not care either way.
Buuuuut the groom's family is more traditionally minded, and have a major issue with her being in a suit or slacks. I talked with her about it and she said she would do it for me and wear a dress... but I feel strange about it. She said its more than just my day, and that it is a merging of families, and that if its important to them she will wear the dress. She is AMAZING. Part of me feels like its not okay to ask her to do this.
I feel grateful, but i know she will be uncomfortable AND never wear it ever again. Do I tell my future in laws to just let it go and my maid of honor just wear what she wants? Do I take her up on her offer to suck it up and wear a dress? Am I overthinking this? I told her to bring a change of clothes and change after the ceremony and pictures if she would like, but I still feel weird about it.
Help!