Maid of Honor Issues

Holy shit.

1. BM had multiple excuses that we have since discovered were nonsense. She just simply didn't want to do it.

2. 1 of them said my MIL was forcing her opinions on me. I was "freaking" out about shoes. I'm a bridezilla and yelling at everyone. I'm super pissed at the former BM.

None of that was true.

3. She has started texting him whenever she's home alone and telling him that she's home alone thinking about him and the wine she left at my house.

4. She told me what her speech was about...

@NewlyMrsLachney, exactly. I'm pretty upset at this point

If I have a friend like that and tries to ruin my wedding I might end up in jail lol

You need to sit her down and have a come to Jesus conversation.

1 of the groomsmen told me that last night

Girl I would cut this bitch cleannnnn out of my life. Also you need to address why FH isn't shutting her TF down when she is coming at him with those kinds of messages. #notcool

He just gives me his phone and I talk to her. It has become a game. Which is sad. We're assholes

Can you clarify more about the texting? I don't understand how the wine at your house fits in. How does FH respond to her texts? Is he showing them all to you? Has he told her that her texts are uncomfortable and he'd like her to stop?

Abandon ship.

I can’t believe the amount of people on this forum who have friends who switch from delightful besties before being asked to be bm, to psycho, drama queens after. I don’t get it.

She wants him to bring it to her house because she doesn't want to come over

Oh Lord, good friend wouldn't do that to another friend. She needs to go!

So you're texting her back pretending to be him? How old are you all?

That's the funny part. I don't try to pretend to be him or spur her on. I tell her that she can come over and get her wine whenever she wants

This is completely new behavior. We were best friends hanging out all the time. She lives the closest to me. She was responsible, dependable, and organized. I thought she would stick by me and make sure that I was getting the wedding I wanted. Instead she isn't any of those things anymore

But when you respond on his phone, she thinks she's getting a response from him, right? She doesn't know that she's getting responses from you. She isn't hearing your FH tell her to stop talking to him like that, so she's not hearing that this is unacceptable to him. She's not being rejected by him.

Yeah. If she does it again. I will. Today she asked for recommendations on a gift for him

I promise you I have done nothing to her. She suddenly started this. Last week the former BM decided she was mad at me for not inviting her to the bachelorette. All I've done is attempt to plan my wedding while trying to keep the peace with my family and hunting for a job. I had hoped my friends could stay calm because they all know my family issues

This sounds like a lot of high school nonsense. Grown women don't drop out of weddings at bridal salons (unless they get hit with a price tag they can't swallow or a dress that humiliates them); brides don't get drunk at a random party and offend a former BM ("I wasn't exactly polite to her" is probably a very sanitized version of the story); a MOH doesn't love a bride and suddenly decide to engage in a gossip session with the BM who is no longer a BM; a MOH doesn't write flirtatious speeches to the groom, and if she does, she doesn't show it to the bride for approval; a MOH doesn't wax poetic about wine left at the groom's home, and she certainly doesn't flirt with him.

This is not how responsible, mature women behave. There has to be more to the story.

These 2 women do behave like this. I was already drunk and I simply hugged her and walked on. This was interpreted as rude.

Once again, she did not show me the speech, she simply told me about.

I came here for advice about what to do.