Maid of Honor Dress Drama

"The OP SAID $120 is reasonable for the MOH". Sorry, but the MOH's finances and spending choices are not up to the bride.

It sounds like MOH initially got her way and now is being crappy because bride changes her mind. At this point, that's on the bride.

It sounds like you changing your mind about wanting her to wear the same dress as the other bridesmaids after initially telling her she could pick her own dress is what is causing the biggest part of the problem. I can understand how she would be irritated by that. She may not like the dress you chose and doesn't want to wear it. It could be a style that she doesn't think looks good on her. If you're now set on wanting uniformity could you compromise and have her pick a dress in the same color, fabric, and length? That way there is uniformity and she could choose a dress she likes better.

You just need to decide if your friendship with her is more important than her wearing the dress you want her to wear. That should be a no-brainer, but, honestly, she does sound kind of bratty.

The OP said the MOH has no problem with spending the $120. The dress choice is up to the bride. If the bride wants the MOH and the BMs to match that's the brides choice.

I changed my mind kind of. I told my MOH that was local that she could wear the dress she liked best along with my other MOH. In the end I actually decided on having all my girls get long black dresses. My MOH ended up buying the one she liked that I had initially picked out. I agree with a cooling off period. Could you ask her to go together and have her try the chosen dress on? At least in person you can try to address her insecurities. Who know she may she right and the dress could be fuguly on her. I chose to do different dresses because I think sometimes having people next to each other in the exact same thing can be unflattering for someone. It invites comparison.

@MrsA - no. Again, the Bride does not get to say that the price of the dress is fine for the BM. That's up to each BM to determine is she is willing to incur the cost of a particular dress. Evidently this BM thinks not.

If the MOH hates the dress, then it's not worth $120 to her, for example.

If one of my friends asked me to wear a garbage bag with a bright rainbow colored Mohawk for her wedding I would do it! It is your day! Why should she care so much?She should care about making you happy and being a part of your day!

Threads like these make me SO glad I don't have a wedding party!!

Don't feel bad I let my MOH and,the only member of my bridal party pick out her dress and I just went with her and picked things out well she got mad that I haven't found one I liked (because I did have 2 girls at the time and one is heavy set but she backed out) and rold,me she wouldn't try anymore in after this last shop well she found one she liked and said this is the one I want and it ended up being $215 and then she got mad at me when she picked it out! Some girls will complain no matter what but if she already has the dress then you shouldn't ask her to change it

She didn't have the dress. The bride promised her that she could be different from the BM's.

Maybe I am wrong but I have never been asked when being a bridesmaid if I was okay with the price. It's always been - here it is, buy it.

I was clearly quite emotional when writing this and a lot of correspondence has happened off the internet since the OP.

She and I are both under a lot of stress right now and need to let things ease off a bit in our own lives.

I am going to let her cool off and then we will discuss it when we are both level-headed.

Good plan! I hope it works out for you!

"Maybe I am wrong but I have never been asked when being a bridesmaid if I was okay with the price."

You are wrong. You should ALWAYS ask your bridesmaids (privately, separately) what their budgets are before you choose a dress for them.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely not. She is allowed to change her mind and she does not need to sugar coat it. You say she’s probably upset about how she wanted to look and her plan blah blah blah. The only persons who plan and vision should matter is the bride and groom.