Maid of honor drama

That sounds like bad energy. I wouldn't personally want that energy any where near my day so I would uninvite. If you do not wish to carry on this friendship and neither does your fiancé, then yes, call it a day and uninvite. I am shocked they would want to show up knowing people are not fans of them right now. That just tells me that they like the drama of it.

Was there a reason that he decided to drop out of the wedding? Do you and your fiancé care about having a friendship with them? If not go ahead and uninvite them but that seems like it may cause even more drama or possibly end the friendship

View Quoted Comment Thats my reaction too, I wouldn’t go to the wedding if that was my situation as well. The only reason she was still on the guest list was because her husband was still walking down and being by the grooms side, now that’s not happening either. Thank you for your advice!

I'm a blunt person. I would discuss it with my FH and if both of you agree, I would uninvite.

View Quoted Comment His reasoning was “I feel bad I want to be in it but at the end of the day I have to go home to her and I don’t want to cause more problems on our relationship” we (bride/groom) have stayed out of their lives for a while now. Im over it but groom still thought he would stand by his side till now. Thank you for your advice, I stand more clear on a decision.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I think FH still had hope with a friendship but now it’s more unclear on his side since his best friend dropped out. Your advice is appreciated and I will take it.

One word. uninvited. If these people don’t care enough about the relationships they share with the two of you and have decided that your wedding day isn’t an important milestone that they’d like to be a part of then they don’t need to enjoy the free food & drinks either. on another note this is absolutely awful and I’m so sorry you’re having to stress about this 2 days before your wedding.

It seems that they are wanting to end the friendship. I would just uninvite & call it a day.

They don’t want to maintain a friendship so uninvite them and go no contact

What decisions were you making that she was upset about? That seems unusual. Why did she drop out in the first place? Was there a reason for all this?

View Quoted Comment She had a backyard wedding/DIY/no vendors, etc. Groom and I wanted a venue/vendors/etc. In the beginning we had appts and meetings with a ton of people, she was upset that we were too busy for her and her husband and made comments that everything we were doing was too expensive (it was all within budget) she was in charge of my bridal shower and contacted my sisters to bring the check to pay for the location (they were not part of the bridal shower planning). She got upset at my bridal shower because I wanted to place a extra chair at the end of the table for my childhood friends daughter (3yr old) who I haven’t seen before the pandemic. She left w/o saying goodbye. I keep on planning without her and minding my business when she gets mad at groom and drops us dry over a weekend (leaves group chats, doesn’t talk to us) turns out groom had nothing to do with situation she was mad at. We keep on planning. She decides not to talk to me anymore (she was in charge of my bachelorette) at this point I’m done, I don’t try to reach out anymore, my bridesmaids plan a weekend for me since we haven’t heard from her. 3 days before weekend she says if I’m ready. I tell her that i have a weekend planned already, her response is that she quits the wedding but will come as her husbands plus one. Now husband 2 days before wedding also is not walking anymore. I think with all the advice, I’m comfortable un inviting.

View Quoted Comment I agree! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! This made me see things in a more clear perspective! It just makes me upset that they still want to cause drama days before; but I know the day of I will be having a great time. Thank you again!

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Ok well sounds like the friendship is over. That's really too bad. I hope you have a great day, and congrats in advance.

I disagree that it sounds like the groomsman wants to drop the friendship. I think his wife is putting him in an impossible situation. And he's right by saying that she's the one that he has to live with. I don't think he's dropping out because he doesn't care about you guys. If your husband still wants to be friends with him, I would still invite him to the wedding.

Yikes! I'm so sorry all of this happened this close to your wedding. Were things always tense between your FH and his friend, and that tension was magnified by your fallout with your MOH? If that many other guests, though, are saying that they're not so fond of the couple anymore, either, then it might ultimately be best if they're not there at all. It sounds to me at this point that they don't even want to come. I would talk with your FH about the best course of action. Maybe they'll just sit quietly at their table and not make much fuss. Whatever you decide, good luck!

I'm so sorry this is all happening, especially so close to your wedding day! I think I would be along the same lines as the others. As long as you and your fiance are okay with possibly ending the friendship, I think it would be best to uninvited them. They seem really dramatic and I wouldn't want the risk of what they might do hanging over me. But I'm also really nonconfrontational so I don't know what I'd do if it were me.


Good luck and I hope you have an amazing wedding!