So I’m 25 days out from the wedding and my maid of honor (traveling from out of state) just told me they aren’t coming to the wedding. Right now I’m full of emotion and feeling devastated to say the least. I’m not really sure what to do now. I know I have to pick someone to take the MOH spot but I don’t know how to ask someone without them feeling like they’re second choice, especially so close to the wedding. Any advice is much appreciated as I’m feeling lost on who to pick/what to do/how to react
I'm sorry this happened. You don't have to replace the MOH. At this point anyone that you ask will know that they are the second choice.
Do not worry about filling the MOH role. There is absolutely no rule that says you have to have a MOH, and many people don’t! Just stick with the people you have already chosen for your wedding party and continue on as planned
Bethany! I’m so sorry for you! It’s completely understandable you would be devastated. Not all hope is lost - my brother did the speech for me at my wedding. Could you have a sibling step in? For what it’s worth, your bridal party is there for whatever you need and if I was a bridesmaid and the bride asked me to step into MOH role under these circumstances- I would be more than happy to do it!! What are friends for?! If there is more than one duty, could you ask the girls to each take a piece? If you can’t chose between them for the toast, perhaps a grandparent or godmother?
At the end of the day, to be quite honest, no one will even notice that you don’t have a MOH. All of the focus will be on you! This is your day! It sucks when things like this happen and when people unexpectedly back out etc. especially your MOH! I know it must be hurtful personally, but I don’t think you need to replace the spot. As far as pictures for your wedding video etc. goes people who see the pictures will have no idea who is your maid of honor and who isn’t. Do you have other girls in the wedding party? Maybe they could give the speech together? You don’t even need a speech technically. To be honest I’m actually worried about what my MOH will say Because she has zero filter LOL so we were thinking about skipping some of the speeches altogether! Just remember that the only person that needs to be there the person at the end of the aisle and you♥️ Hope this helps
You don’t have to, and definitely shouldn’t, replace your MOH. That’s super hurtful to both her and the runner up. You’re correct that they’ll feel like a second choice because that’s exactly what they are.
If my MOH couldn't come due to covid, I would have had a sibling or my mother step in. In the church I was married in, I needed a maid of honor as an official witness, so I HAD to pick someone. When I thought my MOH might not be able to make it, my mother was going to serve as my MOH/witness