Maid-of-Honor being difficult

Honestly, I would seriously evaluate whether you want her to be your MOH. Your MOH should be someone who generally supports your marriage itself and it might be something you need to sit down with her and talk about. If she has legitmate concerns and has been your true friend for a long time, then it might be good to hear her out and see if there is any validity to what she is saying. If not, then she's not really that good of a friend to be standing up next to you on your wedding day.

My BFF had a hard time excepting my FH too. She will never admit it, but she was jealous that I was spending all of my time with him. Not to mention, when you love someone like a sister no one will ever be good enough for them. Luckily for me, in the past 4 years she has gotten over it and while they still irate each other they are kind of friends in a way. Do you know why your MOH doesn't like your FH? You may not want to know why but it might help both of you. Tell her that you love her an you love him and he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with and if she was truly your best friend she would be able to look past how she feels in order for you to be happy because you would do the same for her.

Dress wise, you can get plenty of beautiful dresses at local stores for 50$ or less. Catch the sales, especially after prom.

I do know why she doesn't like him. I understand her concerns. But how she tells me to leave him is irritating. My FH doesn't make much money. He gets about $15,000 a year which in a month he has about $1,300. That is a concern I know she has. I understand. We haven't found alternative jobs because of no job opportunities really.

The thing that got me the most mad is when one day, this was 3 months ago. His phone was disconnected by a mistake since he had two phone lines in his house and the second one was only to be disconnected. I told her and she told me I need to realize he dumped me because I am always bothering him.

Oh and thanks for letting me know to search after prom =)

Sounds like your MOH may be a bit envious/jealous of you. All the stress you are about to endure, you don't need a headache of someone nagging in your ear trying to make you change your mind. I would approach her about the situation and tell her how you are feeling about her negative comments. Then if she continues, I would kick her out of the wedding. It's your day so if she really loves you, she would keep her comments to herself and support you.

Who told you that most brides pay for their bridesmaid's dresses? That's simply not true. Accepting a role as a bridesmaid includes accepting the expenses of the dress and other things. Unless ur FH is abusive towards u she needs to stop. I've had and do have friends who are with people I don't agree with. We've talked about it and they know how I feel but then I let it go and never mention it again. Because it is not really my business. They are the ones who are actually in these relationships and who have to be happy with their choices, not me. And relationships can look very different from the outside than what they are on the inside. I think u should give ur friend a list of what will be required of her as a bridesmaid, this list should include keeping any negative opinions to herself, being supportive of u and ur wedding, loving and paying for any dress that u want her to wear, etc....Then say that if she chooses NOT to adhere to these u will understand and she can come as a guest

"They are the ones who are actually in these relationships and who have to be happy with their choices, not me" Right on Laura.

I have given my own friends hard times about there others because they are hateful, do drugs, ect. But in the end telling someone they love is a loser will never get them to leave. At least your FH has a job, many people can't even claim that much. I know how much it sucks when they are basically saying me or them, but maybe you should make her choice between not having you and having you with your FH. Because you are staying with him either way. It sucks that anyone has to go threw this.

And typically bridesmaids do pay for their own dresses. But right now even JC Pennys has cute dresses for only 30$. Ross is a good places to look too.

Thanks everyone! I am planning on discussing it with her soon. No he's not abusive to me. I guess it's just because we're close like sisters. Also awesome that jcpenney dresses are $30. Hope they will be that way next year for my wedding.

Same boat , Is she the same girl I have? I just had it out with mine the other day, she told me she cant stand by and let me make a mistake like this. LOL She wouldnt even order her dress till I told her either order your dress or wear what you want your a guest. I have been BF with her for 20 some yrs. You just need to tell her whats in your heart, you love him and if you have to chose she will lose. Its hard when you are that close but sometimes pp think they are loosing you and cant handle it. Tell her if she loves you she will find a common ground with him or at least keep her mouth shut. As far as the dress is concerned tell her you cant afford it and if she cant either you will understand she cant participate. It sounds to me like she is bent about you getting married and is just trying to get you to see things her way. Just dont wait to long to talk to her or it will eat at you and you will feel resentment towards her I still do and we fixed our crap. Good Luck.

I think I'm just nervous of talking to her.

I already have some strong issues with her.

Dealing with this and some other things.

I mean she sort of likes him but sometimes

she says shit. I just don't know how to

handle conflicts without getting angry.