MAID OF HONOR BACKED OUT- HELP

Do you have others in your bridal party? I'd say bump one up.

I have 2 others, but I don't really have a good option to fill in another spot.

What else does she need money for aside from the flight and room? I am assuming she already has the dress.

It seems they will lose more money by not coming if everything is paid for. Try not to stress it and just promote someone else

If she's not going to be there, I wouldn't try to replace her. Just have your two other BMs and maybe not have a MOH.

After thinking about it, Laura is right.

I don't know. A car and food? She was complaining that I didn't pay for her flight, but it was supposed to be their honeymoon too. Why would i pay for that?

If I don't add a 3rd person it will be 2 on my side and 3 on his :-/

I would try not to stress about it, just go with the girls you have, maybe its a blessing in disguise (if she came she was going to whine and complain the whole time?? or something, so now you don't have to suffer).

I don't understand it. I feel like she is going to lose the money she already spent.

Tatiana, I don't understand either.

As far as it being uneven, I had 4, he had 3. It didn't look wrong or anything.

Remember, these are people you want standing by your side the day of, not photo props. I would feel pretty crappy being asked to be a replacement because someone else backed out, although I know it is done all the time.

I don't get it either. Maybe something is going on with her that she isn't tray to talk about yet.

Either way, don't replace her. It's ok to have uneven sides

I don't think the unevenness will be that bad... I have 2 on my side, FI has 4 on his.

And of course, I was the Maid of Honor for her wedding and bent over backwards to plan everything and help her at every turn. I live 6 hours from her and drove there 4 different times for her events, but she hasn't at all felt the need to return the favor. I guess you find out who your friends really are.

There is nothing wrong with having uneven wedding parties. At this point, after all the stress she has caused you, do you even WANT to have her standing up for you as MOH? It doesn't sound to me like she has been very supportive. Just have the two ladies stand with you who truly want to be there for you.

Find someone to fill in and purchase her tickets and room? or just go without a MOH.

That being said, I think it is a SUPER shitty thing to do 6 weeks before someone's wedding. You are probably better off with her not being there, but DAMN! that is pretty cold of her. Maybe something big came up in her world and that is prompting this, but I feel so bad for you.

good luck with the rest of your planning...

Any of you lovely ladies want to volunteer to stand with me? lol You're all experts at weddings now right?

I would say okay and move on. and oh...never talk to her again. This would really piss me off your wedding is a month away. what friend does that?

Anywho, I would just have an uneven BP. No biggie.

Im moh in a wedding,this weekend. I have allot of emotional baggage and have wanted to back out several times but I haven't cuz I just couldn't do that. Something must be really bothering her and I assume you didn't just ask her to be moh out of abligation at least I hope not. I woukd,try to talk to her and gind out whats really bothering her. Sometimes we hurt people close to us without trying or realizing. If the bride and I switched,places and she behaved the way I have I would probably have ended the friendship.

Think about why you asked her to be your moh and reach out try to compromise because good, really good people are hard to come by in this world amd a good true friend is the rarest thing of all.

PS, the conversation May be difficult and messy but it needs to happen, don't give up on your friend.

Kiera, I would, but she said some pretty mean things to make me feel bad that I even expected her to go to my wedding. Oh, and apparently I put her on the spot by asking for her to be my maid of honor. How dare me want my "best friend" to be by my side. I am not going to continue the friendship.