Can I have a maid of honor AND a man of honor? The man is my brother, and he's been my best friend since I was born. He is also gay and will be attending my bridal showers and bachelorette party if there is one. My maid of honor lives in Louisiana and just found out she's pregnant. So she wont be able to come to Colorado often and help. These 2 are my best friends. Is it appropriate to have both? My fiance things ut should be by gender since 2 families are becoming one, they shouldn't be split by who us with who, but go by gender.