"Magic" number of toasts?

I think 3 is a good number, Best Man, MOH, and Father of the Bride/Family member are pretty standard.

One wedding that stuck out to me, they had an "open mic" rehearsal dinner, and BM, MOH, and Father made a more "official speech" at the wedding. There ended up being a LOT of speeches at the rehearsal , however it was much better at the rehearsal than at the wedding

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We are only having my father give the first toast. Then MOH and Best Man. Then... it's one of our friends 30th birthdays so sean and I will give a toast and embarrass our friend with shouting out her birthday. I have a feeling my FHs family will say something at the rehearsal dinner.

For me it will be 2. Both of our parents will greet us at the official start of the reception with Kolovai (Russian sweet bread and salt). There will be a short greeting speech by them and a shot done. The second will be by his best man. Short and sweet I am thinking that will be right before dinner starts after grace.

I think, between rehearsal dinner and wedding, we are having 8 and are encouraging folks to keep it to 2 minutes. We will also do one together later in the evening at our wedding

No toasts at my wedding. No one wants to listen to them. My DW and I welcomed everyone with a short speech of thanks at the beginning of the reception and then we moved on to dinner.

We will have a total of 4. My MOH, his best men are doing a combined one, my brother's, and then my dad. I told them there's a total of 10 minutes between them all. But we are planning it out to be 15 with our caterer because sometimes people ramble.

4 MAX

We are only doing two. My MOH and FSIL.

Any more than three or four at either event seems excessive. My MIL/FIL and SIL gave toasts at the rehearsal dinner, my dad have a welcome speech and said grace at the beginning of our reception, then our best man and MOH gave toasts between courses.

We did get several handwritten notes though from our siblings and friends in our cards. Perhaps you could suggest some people write to you instead?

In my opinion, 0. They are so boring and I hate listening to them haha but the MOH and Best man will probably do one.

We had 4 toasts at the wedding reception: father of the bride, maid of honor, best man (who is also the groom's dad), and one additional groomsman. We had a TON of friends give toasts at the rehearsal dinner though!

I would only have no more than 4-5 speeches at the wedding. People could get bored very quick. Rehearsal dinner is the best to have many speeches

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We have 3, my 2 MOH and the best man. My parents don't want to speak and neither do we haha.

I agree with Celia - no more than 2 at the reception. Your guests really don't want to hear all your siblings and friends rambling on about inside jokes that no one gets. Perhaps have them give theirs at the rehearsal if you really want to honor their request.

As a guest, I don't necessarily care about the number, but I do care about the time. It wouldn't make a difference to me if 10 people gave 2 minute speeches or 2 people gave 10 minute speeches. I think the sweet spot for time is around 20 minutes though — after that, I get tired of craning my neck unless the speech is really good (which often they are).

2. 3 max but that's even pushing it.

My MOH, FHs best men, and either my dad or me will give a thank you for coming and your support speech, then we have a relative doing a prayer before the meal.

We haven't had anybody ask to do toasts, but we'll probably have about 4: maid of honor, best man, matron of honor/my Mom and my Dad, and his parents. Hopefully the parents can combine speeches and keep the time down lol.

We did a really short welcome and thank you to my man of honor's parents who made us custom-made wine glasses. Then my man of honor and my husband's sister made toasts. For the rehearsal dinner, we invited our parents (my mom and dad and my husband's dad) to say a few words. This was all arranged a few weeks in advance so everyone had time to plan.