Lost Photographer

This is going to sound terrible, but I learned early on, that in order to reduce my own stress level, I couldn't leave any major decisions/tasks up to my fiance to complete. I tried to give him a few small things, and we are just very different. I am a planner that likes to get things crossed off the list asap, and he is more laid back, and not that worried about things getting done.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I guess the best thing to do at this point is to blast out a note to all of your friends, asking if they know anyone good that may be able to help out.

Good luck!!

Thanks Joanie. The only reason I left this decision to him was because he had a problem with every single one I talked to. I am a laid back planner but I do have in mind the deadlines and how fast I need to make a decision. I already talked to my friends and they are already sending me some options.

Hey Natalia! I'm sorry that this has happened.

Have you found any other photographers that you are interested in? You should definitely check out the WeddingWire vendor search for Wedding Photographers in your area. You could also check out Instagram for some local up and coming photographers! You might be surprised by what you can find!

Good luck with your search!!

Hey Natalia! Were you able to find another photographer?

I have learned too that I can't leave any tasks up to my fiancé. If I give him anything to do he just won't do it or will stress me out enough about it that I have to take care of it. I tried to let him plan the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon, both of which he complained about it being too stressful, so I just did it. I wanted to have the rehearsal dinner at a restaurant that was close to the church (right after the rehearsal at the church on Friday night). He thought of every excuse and every other option (everything that would end up being more work for me). His first comment was that the restaurant wasn't calling him back and when he did talk to them it was only $18 per person. I called the restaurant and got a hold of them right away and I was told the cost was actually $29 per person. He suggested we do the dinner Thursday near his house (30 minutes away from me), rehearsal at church on Friday, and then the wedding on Saturday. He said we could have the dinner at my churches hall and have it catered. What he didn't realize (or listen to me about) was that we would have to clean up everything, put things away, and leave the place the way we found it. Finally my parents offered to have it at their house. At first he told me he didn't want to have it there and gave me a few more excuses (like we won't have alcohol, or enough time, etc...). Finally when I told him the restaurant and church hall both would have been BYOB anyway, he just gave in. I just can't go through the disagreements when I give him stuff to plan.

The only thing that I gave him to do is get a limo. Well right now that isn't looking too good! He wants to rent cars and have the groomsmen drive them (that's not happening with drunk groomsmen). I'll probably just end up driving my own car!

I also told him that he has to get a passport for the honeymoon. He won't do it! I may be going on my honeymoon by myself!

Ugh. I'm sorry!

You'll find a photographer! If FMILs friend is this flaky now, imagine what he could be like AFTER... forgot film, camera, didn't make edits, forget must have photos. Trust me, it happens. Our photographer ghosted us leading up to the wedding. We couldn't get out of the contract. We proceeded and his edits were horrible. He forgot some must have shots (we literally only have ONE photo of us looking at the camera and I look stupid). Save yourself the heartache later. You'll find someone else!

I am so sorry, something similar happened to me but I'm thinking he lied, he probably signed a contract with someone else day/days after he met with you guys and found a client that benefited him better/paid right up front. thats what vendors do! it happened to me and I didnt blame them, time is money and they rather have a secure client rather than a "I'll let you know later" sorry this happened to you!!

Awww...alls well that ends well. You should search on here for photographers. I was surprised at the vendors I found on here and their affordable prices. You will find a photographer and he sounded like he was booked last minute anyway so there is not much time lost. Smile big because you will get what you are looking for =)

I think the same thing. And so true! Money in hand trumps we will get back to you