Lost motivation/excitement

Take a break from the planning.

Dad won't come: his loss

Mom has bills: she will work out a way to pay them

School, work, RCIA: that's just life

Stay fit: this will help you with all the above (maybe not your mom's bills)

Have some wine (white is said to have fewer calories) and let your mind rest a bit

We are almost there ! I honestly haven't really been too excited until I went for the first fitting yesterday. Focus on the positive and remember it will all work out! (:

I'm probably not the best to respond, but i'm in the same boat. Highly contemplating just going to a courthouse.

Take a break!! My planning motivation (and lack thereof) definitely came in waves If you need a planning break, take one!

It is a lot but when you look back later in life you will say boy that was easy. You are burned out I am sure as are many. This day is about you and him. The best thing to do is get a little exercise in. A body in motion stays in motion.

I'm feeling the same way..just no motivation to do anything. I'm in total IDGAF mode and everything is making me annoyed very easily. I'm at the point where I want it over with so that FH and I are relaxing on our honeymoon

Exercise is a natural way to relieve stress and will help you keep focus.

Would it be feasible in terms of time and finances to get away somewhere--by yourself? You could do something that your FH and closest friends might be loath to do. For me, that's hard-core hiking. When I need to clear my head, I take Amtrak for about six hours into the mountains, climb some massive peaks and go kayaking in my down time. FH isn't into that and I'd rather not go with a large group of people so I can set my own pace and not clog up what are often narrow hiking trails.

Make it meditative and mind-clearing.

Same Sara same!!

Thank you everyone for the advice! Danielle that sounds awesome! I would probably die though lol

@annabelle Thanks, lol. Hiking is just one idea. Some others are a yoga retreat, going to a Ye Olde Historical Town or to a nearby big city.

If you're doing RCIA, I'm assuming that culminates with the Easter Vigil Mass, so you're on the home stretch there.

Take a planning break and maybe spend some quality time with your FH and remind yourself the wedding is only a part of the bigger picture: you are going to marry your best friend.

Yes thank goodness!!! I can't wait for that!! I feel like once that hits I'm going to get my excitement back!

All I can think about is going on our honeymoon that's what is keeping me going haha.

Yes Riya, thank goodness. He makes it all worth it

Same. I HATE talking about the wedding. People ask and I usually just say some generic answer and change the subject.

RCIA! Congrats. After the Easter vigil you'll feel amazing. Try to relax and enjoy the good moments.

I hear ya! My wedding day is one week after yours. I have been engaged since January 2016. I'm coming to the point where I'm losing my drive and excitement too. At this point I'm just over it.

Take a break! Take a few days or even a week without any wedding talk. I got the same way & did this & it helped so much. Also, let go of the idea that everything needs to be perfect. There will be things that don't turn out exactly as planned & you know what? That's ok. It's about you two getting married & that's all. If someone doesn't show up, oh well! Have a good time anyways. My MIL didn't show & the wedding went on anyways. Good luck!

Oh I know the feeling!! I was feeling the exact same way before getting married. I was honestly happy the whole thing was over and done with. I had lost my job (which meant no honeymoon), didn't care at all about losing weight, and there was also major drama that went down a couple nights before the wedding between my husband and my mom (that was completely my moms fault btw) which caused major drama at my wedding which totally sucked BUT..... I'm totally happy now and honestly the whole drama thing is all over and done with. We are happy that we are married so don't worry too much and just know THAT IT DOES GET BETTER!!

Same. I'm at the IDGAF point too haha. My mom is very upset by this; she expects me to be on Cloud 9 over it for 16 months straight, I suppose. But no one can stay excited that long. Plus some people just aren't as excitable as others. I think you'll be excited in your own way when the day gets closer. You're still far away.

Thank you guys you're making me feel much better. It is true not everything needs to be perfect (:

You will look back in 10 years and wish you had let yourself enjoy this more. Remember, being able to plan a wedding and spend the money is a privilege! This is not something everyone has an opportunity to do so be excited! You are marrying your best friend and nothing is going to change that.