This is very difficult for me and I have no idea where to turn or what to do. I just found out my fiance of 2 years has been texting other men and sending them inappropriate pictures. At first, she denied everything and blamed it on technology or whatever she said. She has since come around and admitted she's always had these separate relationships on the side in every relationship she has had since at least 2009 and it stems from daddy issues. Our wedding is supposed to be in less than 2 months. I absoluety want to cancel the wedding, but she doesn't. She says she's willing to put in the work to repair our relationship and is extremely remorseful. To make it worse a few days before the discovery she received a letter in the mail that said "I know you cheated on (insert my name). Are you going to come clean before the wedding or should I tell him?" She assured me there was nothing to it and it was her jealous ex just trying to start trouble, which I thought odd, they broke up six years ago BUT I found out too that they had been in communication since and only very recently stopped communicating.
We haven't had sex in over 2 years because she wanted us to wait until marriage and to find out she's been giving the sexual energy to other guys so causally and I've had to work towards being her husband to get the same attention and honestly less of it. I feel betrayed, she's, of course, nothing physical has ever happened and this was all just for attention. She sent them pictures of lingerie outfits she bought for the wedding night and she joked around about the outfits being for them. She's introduced me to some of these guys and toasted she drinks with them as though we were friends. One of the guys is the bartender for our couples shower this upcoming week. I feel so stupid and disrespected and I'm so embarrassed I don't want to show my face in public around anyone. I've consistently worked 2-3 jobs the past couple of years to help pay for the wedding, she's helped here and there, but I never felt any way about it because I love her and want to be a great provider. My whole world is crashing and I don't know what to do. At this point, I think postponing the wedding is the best option, but she's adamant that with counseling we can make the wedding date and be stronger than before.
