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AlyPV
Devoted April 2015

Lost a special someone...Grandma missing from wedding.

AlyPV, on November 17, 2013 at 12:12 PM Posted in Planning 0 26

Yesterday, while at lunch, I received notification that my grandmother had passed suddenly in her home. She lives in Europe so I didn't get to see her often. To top it off due to estrangement from my father for 15 years, I was unable to maintain a relationship with her. Just this year, this summer to be exact, I reconnected with her (and my father essentially) and it felt so right. I was so excited that, even after all these years, I would be able to include her in my life from that day forward. In the preliminary wedding planning there has always been a sense of happiness that even if she missed everything else, she would be able to see her first granddaughter get married. Learning of her passing is truly sad Smiley sad

Have you guys ever lost someone and found a way to honor them at your wedding? I have a bracelet that she gave me during our reunion this summer (a piece she made from her wedding day necklace, how special!) I was thinking of wearing it on my big day. Any other ideas?

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Latest activity by MissMadeline, on November 20, 2013 at 9:25 AM
  • Rye
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    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandma. I think thats a great way to honor your grandma. And that is so special that she gave you that necklace.

    My dad passed away four years ago. My plan is to take a piece of one of his shirts, and wrap it around my bouquet. It hurts so much knowing that he won't be there to walk me down the aisle.

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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
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    Sorry for your loss. I will be taking the erings of both grandma's and my mothers wedding set down the aisle with me in some facet (possibly sewn in dress). Thinking of memorial table for them and members of his family as well.

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  • Donna
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    So sorry to hear of your loss. Wearing your grandmother's bracelet would be one way of making her a part of your wedding day. Praying for you and for your family.

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  • Lindylu22
    Master October 2013
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Smiley sad I think wearing the bracelet is a great idea.

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  • AlyPV
    Devoted April 2015
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    Thanks everyone for your condolences. Your ideas are all great!

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  • Just Dee
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    I'm so sorry.

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  • mscountry
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    Sorry for your loss. Both my grandparents passed a few years ago and i am reserving chairs in their honor at the ceremony.

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  • AlyPV
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    @Mrscountrylace That is a wonderful idea!

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  • mscountry
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    I seen it online and had to do it.

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  • Anabella
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    So sorry for your loss Smiley sad

    My FH's grandmother passed away in May, she meant a great deal to him. He wants to have a "reserved for (her name)" at his family's table and we also found a sign that says "We know you'd be here if heaven weren't so far away" that we will be placing on her ceremony chair (I found a few on Etsy). I'll be putting one of her bracelets on my bouquet. I had the great pleasure of meeting her and growing a close relationship with her as well.

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  • Courtney F
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    My grandmother just passed away on the 9th, exactly a week before my sister's wedding. She was able to save a flower from the funeral and had it put into her bouquet. She also got a small pendant and put a picture of my nana in it and attached it to her bouquet. The pendant was from Things Remembered.

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  • LB
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    I am so sorry. I think the bracelet idea is great.

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  • Mrs. V V
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    I'm sorry for your loss.

    My grandma was big on knitting/crocheting, I will use something she made in bouquet along with a blue rosary.

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  • Lindsay Y
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    My condolences, Aly.

    My mom passed away when I was 16. She was my best friend and I have found it very difficult not having her around through this process. I know she would have loved doing all of this wedding stuff with me. I am planning to have a small picture frame with her picture in it attached to the ribbon on my bouquet. I am also planning to have a sign at my reception that says, "We know you would be here today if heaven weren't so far away." I found it on Etsy and I love that song and sentiment.

    I think the bracelet is a wonderful tribute to your grandmother at your wedding.

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  • Helen
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost both my parents and FH has lost his father, we are doing a memory table at the reception it will have three candles, their pictures and flowers. Also I had been planning on wearing my moms sapphire ring as my something old/blue, while visiting my sister this past weekend we went through her jewelry box and found a pearl necklace and earrings that were my moms and perfect for my wedding jewelry. Instead of being "blinged" out I'm going to be "mommed" out and I can't wait.

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  • AlyPV
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    Thank you ladies so much for your suggestions, they are all wonderful. I love the idea of having that etsy sign as well as reserving an empty seat for her. I am going to try and incorporate all these ideas! Smiley smile

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  • Heidi
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    I'm so sorry. My mom passed away a year ago and like you, Aly, it has been very difficult going through all of this without her. I am planning on having a small picture frame attached to my bouquet as well. I'm also going to have a pedestal with a candle and picture of my mom at the front. I LOVE the idea of a memory table. Very sweet. Smiley smile

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  • Katie
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    My father passed away about a year ago, so obviously there are huge "holes" in my wedding. I plan on doing a photo slideshow to the song that I had planned on dancing with him for our father/daughter dance, and I'm walking down the aisle myself. To me, the only thing worse than him not being there (to me) is feeling like I'm replacing him with someone else. That being said, deciding how to honor your lost loved ones is a very personal decision. I love the Etsy sign idea as well Smiley smile

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  • Riki
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    I understand how you feel. I love my father's mom, my mom's mom, and my mom's mom's mom all in 2010.

    It left a big hole in my family as we were always so close. Now, not so much.

    A large part of my motivation for even having a real wedding is the fact that my family has been so fractured since their deaths.

    I really want to figure out a way to honor them at the wedding. I was thinking of having a moment of silence, or prayer, or something in honor of them or maybe a memorial table...Not sure...

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
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    Aw, your grandma is gonna love looking down from heaven and seeing that bracelet on you!

    remember, she is with you always xox

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