Losing interest in my own wedding...

I want to be excited again!!

Honestly, I'm just excited for our cake tasting right now, because who doesn't like having an excuse to eat a lot of cake?

I'm sorry to hear that you went through a rough patch, but glad to hear that it's made you stronger. I would watch some wedding videos on Vimeo or even plan on attending a bridal expo with some friends. Hopefully the cake testing will help too. Cake never hurts!

Take a break! I assume you have your big stuff sorted out since you have been planning for a while. Wait until you are 3 months out and jump in again.

At three months I have found that others are getting excited where they have not been at all this whole time. They are worried about what they are going to wear. Your invites go out soon so you have the excitement of that. And your shower will be soon so the planner needs invite list and has some questions for you.

I hope you and FH continue to do well after your fight. Just focus on the 2 of you for a bit and then jump back into wedding planning when you feel like it.

My FH and I also had a large fight right before Thanksgiving, but the issues are being actively dealt with. We were not in the same financial management page and I was ready to walk - but now, about a month and a half later, I am excited again. It may sound stupid but honestly, when we weren't in such a good place, I found a lot of memories on the TimeHop app and saw how much he is trying - and I know how much he loves me. We both have improvements to make, and we are. But maybe if you can also spend a little time when you're feeling down reflecting on the good in your past - that made such a difference to me. And I also realized I can't picture my future with anyone but him.

I'm sorry you had to deal with that, but it's good that your back on track with your relationship. I agree with the others, take some time off from planning and relax a little bit then if you find yourself still not into it...I would go to some Bridal Show and see if that will get you excited about planning (:

Go on Etsy and look for cute items... I recently went through a wedding planning lull from all the holiday craziness and when I looked at my to-do list I really didn't want to do anything. But then I went on Etsy and looked at all my favorited items and I had that excited feeling again. I just registered us for our Pre Cana (Catholic Church requirement) and I'm really excited about that also.

I wish you the best of luck with everything, my dear! Xoxo

Take a break and focus on something else- remember it's JUST a party- you could go get married in city hall- the rest of it is literally is just the "party" aspect of it. So put it in perspective and just take a step back and realize none of the fluffy stuff matters. getting married matters- and spending time with your family matters- and of course- cake and wine that matters.

Everything else- puffle stuff. you got this.

We've been engaged since July 19th, 2014 and I've been burnt out since about June. There's nothing that had gotten me excited about planning it again. I just do what I need to until the day comes and I can see if I pulled out all together or not. We're both very... Eclectic. So if anything.... It'll still reflect us as a couple lol. I think it's fine not to be all crazy excited to be planning. Especially with engagements as long as ours. If you have zero doubts now, then I'd continue with the wedding, but if there's that little voice in the back of your head.... It's better to lose a few thousand now rather than in the future when you have a bunch of kids, a house, and have a pricy long drawn out divorce later.

I get where you're coming from. DF and I went through something similar, but we've been engaged since 2012-ish, and last year I just lost all interest in the planning because things kept pushing back the date.

I left WW, and decided to focus on our relationship and other aspects of our life for awhile. I realize you don't have as much time, but for me, little things like trying on my dress or rearranging our invites (I'm DIY them), has made a big difference. It's been the changes that have helped break away mentally from the old to get excited about the new.

I'm sorry you guys hit a rough patch, but I'm glad you worked things out! Our engagement is 11 months total. I spent the first 2-3 excited about ALL THE WEDDING THINGS!!! Then I got over it and couldn't motivate myself to do any planning, other than hanging out on here. Around 4-5 months out, we started being able to meet with our vendors and that's gotten me excited again. Since the 3 month out mark, we've had so much to do and it's started feeling pretty real. That IDGAF phase just felt like a no man's land of can't book vendors, and the ones you hired don't want to talk to you.

You're excited about cake tasting! that's a start! what's next on the list?? you're almost there girl! don't give now.

I was thinking about you the other day and how you were doing, I'm happy you're back! I've hit some rough patches in planning as well.

Still definitely want to be with him and be together, but just don't care about the wedding. I took a break starting around late October (when the fight started) but I feel like now that we're at 6 months I SHOULD be doing wedding stuff.

1. Take a break for a while.

2. Your FH should be doing at least half the work. And that includes planning particular aspects of the wedding, not "helping" after you narrow things down to a few choices.

3. Simplify. You don't need every last detail you've ever seen on Pinterest. If you've got so much money invested that you don't feel comfortable backing off, then you've got enough of the planning done that you could probably just stop planning now and still have a lovely wedding. Don't drive yourself nuts.

Pick an amazing wedding venue you are crazy about, and then all the pieces will come together. get your friends to help ease the load of the small details.