Long engagement?

I got engaged September of 2015 and our date is set for July 21st of 2018. Ours is set out so far because I wanted to get through college (and make his parents feel a little better since we're only 21 and have been together for about a year and a half.) And its time to save. Plus, we decided this wasn't something we were gonna rush, and we're really enjoying our engagement. Its been very stress free for the most part.

We got engaged 2/13/16 and our date is set 6/24/17 we have been together for 8 year there's no rush and we get to do little my little

We got engaged in December 2015 and will be getting married on August 31, 2017. We will be engaged for 21 months. It is a long time. People will get engaged after you and married before you. It is apart of the sacrifice we are making to have the wedding we want which includes hosting our guests properly. I promised myself that the next person who questions the length of our engagement I will respond with "So which one of these vendors will you be paying for?"

Yeah... I got engaged Christmas 2013... Haha. So LONG. I had to wait to finish undergrad (it would have messed up my financial aid) and then I didn't even look to start planning until 2015 (life took a bit of a front seat). So, I sort of feel like people were more surprised when I finally had a date

I got engaged November 2015 wedding is Sept 2017, and when they ask I say "because weddings are expensive and we're paying it ourselves." It can get annoying but its a question that will always come up.

We're having a semi-short engagement...he's a marine and has to relocate end of December (easier to get everything done before we leave)...engaged in February, getting married end of August

We got engaged Valentine's Day of 2014 and will be getting married December 2017, so about a 3.5 year engagement. We wanted to wait until after undergrad, and were originally going to do 2016 but that was met with discourse because we wouldn't have been out of undergrad too long. We won't be finished with graduate school by then, but we'll be about half way done (I graduate the summer of 2018 and I think he does around that time as well).

We got engaged on New Years 2016 and we are getting married on June 2nd 2018 because it is our anniversary too. We wanted to wait until I would finish up undergrad (which will be 2017) but since I'm going for law school after and he is in the military, we decided to wait until he can get out in 2018 so we can live together. And we definitely get some side eye for waiting so long :/

We got engaged june 2013 married march 2106. If thats what works for you thats all that matters, just ignore what others with the negative comments. You have chosen your date for good reasons, and sure I as always said to anyone who gave me funny looks "if I can't manage look at him and be with him for the next 2 years while I'm engaged, sure I shouldn't be getting married to him"

We got engaged in November 2013 and will get married June 2016. Yes it was a long engagement. We decided to wait so we could pay for the wedding that we wanted. Actually In hindsight I wouldn't have waited so long. We've been through allot of stress and issues because if the wait. I think we started to reconsider if our relationship is what we wanted but, fortunately we came around and realized we wanted to be together. Now I'm 19 days out and cannot wait to marry this man.

We got engaged may 10, 2014 and will marry June 23, 2017. That's a little over three years. There is absolutely nothing wrong with longer engagements. In my opinion, they're better because you get to spend time together as an engaged couple, and you get to save. I always have people asking me why we are waiting and I tell them just that. There is no "right or wrong" length of engagement. Congrats and happy planning

A marriage is not about the wedding. I'm a little concerned that couples would rather wait 2-3 years to marry the person they love because they want a wedding that will impress other people. I got engaged December 9, 2015 and my wedding is October 29, 2016. Less than a year. Why even get engaged if you have all these excuses to not get married???

Originally I wanted to get married on an auspicious date (I'm Chinese as well) but when it came down to it, we picked what our venue had available. There weren't many dates left. Plus, there are auspicious hours so as long as you say your vows by then, you're good. We're getting married 3/4/2017 and we got engaged 1/1/2016. We decided a year was enough time for us to save the money we would need.

Ignore them though. Honestly it's becoming more common and it isn't any of their business anyways. Plus, you'll get your top pick of vendors.

I don't think there is anything wrong it waiting. Hey if you are meant to be then it will all work out and you will end up married. For me, a wedding is not worth what it costs. We both come from very low income families, so they really are not able to help. When we get married we will be 22 and 23, so we don't have that kind of money and if we were to save up 10,000+ dollars we would probably use it to put down on a house, car, or pay off our debt. Saying all of that, we are get married after a 5 month engagement because it's what makes sense for us. We have been living together since we were 17 and are raising a 6 year old. We know we love each other and want to be together and there are so many other benefits to getting married, (better financial aid for college, better tax returns, health insurance for me, better insurance rates). It just didn't make sense to have a 2 year engagement for us, because it's putting off so many of the benefits we would get from legally being married. Or course this isn't the only reason we are getting married, but for us, the shorter engagement worked out better. Hey people are judging us for that too. I think no matter what, people will have their opinions. As long as it works out for you all, then do your thing.

I was engaged like 4 years when we got married! It is really no ones business. You should be proud that you have decided to take the time to save instead of throwing something together!

Engaged Oct 2014, bought house April 2015, will be married next month. We wanted to get settled in the house and see what we could afford to do after a few months. We had parents asking us monthly why we were taking so long. After awhile I just asked which of them worked 50+ hours a week with a 7 year old and attended college while trying to plan a wedding... shut people up quickly.

@taylormade1029 its not about having a wedding that will impress others, if that is why we or others waited well they seriously need a huge reality check. For us it was about having the wedding we wanted, with all of our nearest and dearest and not having pressure on us. Yes there is the argument why not have saved and then gotten engaged and married in a shorter time. But nobody plans and saves for a wedding when your not engaged.. well maybe some do, but its a bit presumptuous. My dad said to me after we got engaged, congratulations, you have made the commitment now, that is all that is important. Marriage hasn't changed much bar my next of kin and my tax credits (we're not religious)!! We lived together for 5 years, have had extremely good and bad times already and know each other very well. We just wanted to make our commitment to each other the way we wanted to with all of our loved ones and not be worried about money and to be able to enjoy ourselves. Everyone has there own reasons, they were ours.

My FSIL was engaged for 7 years I believe. Her husband proposed before she went to college and they finally ended up getting married when she found out she was pregnant. They had been together since they were 13 I believe. They are still together raising their 6 year old, so like I said before don't worry about what others think. Just do what you think is best.

I didn't wait 4 years to just have a wedding that would impress people. Me and FH were young when we got engaged. We wanted to wait until we were financially stable to be married. Also if someone wants to wait to save money for their dream wedding there is nothing wrong with that. There is also nothing wrong with having something small and quick as long as you host your guest properly.

Something you will learn pretty fast is that once you get engaged and start planning your wedding, everyone suddenly has an opinion and loses their sense of tact. This is a great opportunity to start practicing your nod and smile. It's only the beginning of the unwelcome comments.