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Just Said Yes September 2027

Loner couple-unsure of how to proceed

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Paige, on March 21, 2018 at 9:54 AM

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We have decided to have a beach wedding. The problem with this is that we live in a landlocked state so our wedding would ultimately be deemed a destination wedding. Since we are a loner couple, we don’t have very many friends. Our guest count is hovering at 27 (he’s unsure who to invite) and we know the numbers are what determines your cost. We are unsure of who would attend because it is a destination wedding and we can not afford to pay for everyone to attend. Some of his friends would be coming from Cali which is the complete other side of the country. We both don’t think they will be willing to do this. Nor do we think the majority of our guests living here would be willing to attend if they had to pay for the trip themselves. My issue is that I obviously don’t want to spend all that money for a wedding that maybe two guests would attend. However, I also despise the idea or elopement/“shotgun” Weddings. I have considered sending invites and then determining based on the number of responses if we should have a “big wedding” or scrap the whole idea. Does anyone have any advice for this situation?

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Just Said Yes September 2027
Paige · on March 21, 2018 at 12:56 PM
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Thank you. I sincerely appreciate you not taking the opportunity for a personal attack like most others on this thread have. I simply asked a question because I was unsure of what to do. I don’t like to mention it, but I have autism so it can be difficult to find the right words to express my thoughts. Because of this, I believe a good portion, if not all, of my post was misunderstood. I also appreciate you being kind in your comment and encouraging me to go through with the wedding I want. Comments like yours are what these forums need. When I made the post, I was irritated, overwhelmed, and starting to become depressed. I have since calmed down and gotten a clear head again. None of this is easy. But you are right, this is our day and all that matters is that we are happy.
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OG Kathryn · on March 21, 2018 at 1:11 PM
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Unfortunately online all we can go by is what you've provided us.
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Will & Tiara · on March 21, 2018 at 4:15 PM
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People don't mean to be cruel, they are just opinionated (as am I sometimes). You sound as if you have been through a lot, so do enjoy your planning process and have fun! All best of love to you and your beloved!
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