Lodging: least tacky way to ask for reimbursement

I'm sorry, what? Which comments were ugly or harsh?

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Also, we are making it clear to guests that it isn't hotel style lodging. It is bunk style (bring you back to those outdoor school days, haha) but it is an option we are providing to our guests so they have a place to stay after our reception/bonfire. We said something like "bunk style lodging is available...". We might be setting up a PayPal account to make it easier for our guests to pay (I believe PayPal takes a percentage though), and that way we can send them an actual invoice so everyone knows when the "reservation" is confirmed

View Quoted Comment I think by implying that I would tell people what to do and by implying that I was being rude in asking for people to pay for lodging.

View Quoted Comment Chantelle that's a great idea. Takes the question out of it and leaves it up to everyone to kind of do their own thing.

View Quoted Comment Out of curiosity, what did you end up doing? My fiancé and I are looking at the possibility of having this same issue. We will have a small wedding of less than 60 people and will be planning it as a mini vacation to get all of our friends together to stay in a huge house in the mountains. There will be 30 of us staying in the house and I have no idea how to go about asking them for money... ultimately it will be cheaper than if they had to get hotel rooms, and when you attend an out of town wedding the bride and groom are not responsible for paying for your hotel rooms, so why is this any different?

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Hi J,

What have you ended up doing? We are trying to do the same as you! I think most people attending are on board and supportive...just not sure how to appropriately word on the invitation!

Cheers,

Nichol

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My apologizes, I just saw your question. We asked people to pay for this exact reason. It ended up being way cheaper for them not only for lodging purposes but also cost of travel to and from venue to hotel. Turns out no one actually cared that we asked and it wasn't tacky. Everyone totally understood that cost is a big thing and that we wanted everyone to be together and this was the best way we knew how to do it. We chose to include a smaller invitation within the large invitation, we invited people to stay on site for x cost or they had the option to do a hotel room if they chose-which no one did. I hope this is helpful.