Living together stress...

I agree with a little of everyone's opinion but It honestly comes down to what you are willing to put up with. Stop arguing about it first because he doesn't or wont be receptive to it. I don't agree with stop doing it totally because a dirty house would/should freak you out. I would however not do his laundry and would only get food that is the bare necessity and none of the things he likes and when he asks why haven't you gotten anything that he likes just say that your budget didn't allow it.

Whatever roda you decide to take is up to you but I do say fiure this out and come to a mutual agreement on finaces prior to saying "I DO" !

Did he live on his own before you two moved in together? If not he probably just doesn't understand what it takes to keep a house/apartment running.

Take a girls trip and let him be on his own for a week so he can see just how much you do around the house.

i've lived on my own before moving in with FH but I still am shocked and reminded at how much he does for me when he goes out of town for a week.

When I went on vacation two years ago, it was July and he kept the windows open with the fan on because he would work the central unit which is a heating and cooling unit. I had the ac temperature pre set and everything, he only has to literally hit the button that say on and off... 😂 on the real, sometimes I feel I’m doing a lot more things like cleaning and stuff, but I don’t really complain because I’m disabled and I don’t work. He works all day and helps me before his job with side jobs that help me get more money with my disability money which isn’t a lot. Besides paying half the rent and my bills, he helps with a lot of things like medicine my insurance won’t cover that’s expensive and what not so as often as I’m like oh my god why am I doing everything... I have to remember to look at as a give and take kinda thing. Thankfully my FH is a cook so I don’t do much of that but sometimes changing the way you see it can help. He doesn’t do laundry ever. But again, he picks up where I can’t and that’s my way of giving back!

Set boundaries. I would also designate a time where you both do chores, set the timer to 30 mins (or however long you want to) and go from there. I would also recommend that you take his behind to the grocery store with you so that he can see how much of a cost it is.

Financial differences are a big reason for a rocky start, nip that in the bud so that you have the marriage you have dreamed about.

My mom always told me, if he starts to do something that really bothers you, and you've already tried talking to him about it and still won't listen, subtly do the same thing back. Although it may sound immature, it works. Sometimes you really need to "give them a taste of their own medicine" if you will, and see what happens. It just sounds like he needs a little wake up call. I definitely wouldn't be okay with that!