Listing absent parents in wedding program?

I think this is a very personal decision. I wouldn't list anyone in my program who wasn't at the wedding. I think this would only bring up more questions from guests.

I wouldn’t include their names but that’s my personal view.

If it were me, no. They would not be mentioned at all. It seems completely different to mention someone who can't be there because they have passed on or are very ill, rather than someone who is choosing not to attend.

If it were me I wouldn’t be including them on anything.

I wouldn't list them if they chose to not attend my wedding. I would still list FH's family since they will be there. It's only fair.

My mom name will be there alone. My dad is choosing not to be in attendance just cause he don't want to make the trip.

My life donors (my "mom" and "dad" are garbage humans) will not be in attendance either. I will not be listing their names on the wedding program, since they will not be there. I will have my fiancé's mother and his grandparents listed. All of my grandparents have passed, so I will be listing them under a special "In Loving Memory Of" section. I'm also choosing to walk down the aisle by myself, since I've been on my own for a very long time. Hope this helps!

I wouldn’t list your parents names because this may confuse guests and they will inquire. I’ve been to a wedding before where the bride’s father was not supportive at all, but he attended. The couple decided to list the bride’s parents on the program anyway. They even had a “father-daughter dance” and the bride’s father refused to dance with her, so she danced with the groom’s father instead. This caused many guests and even myself to inquire.

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Exactly this!!!

I agree with some of the other responses. My dad and step mom aren't coming to the wedding so on the programs I included my future in laws and my mom and step dad. I feel like including those who aren't there only brings more attention to their absence. At the same time I think it's only right to include those who did make the time and effort to be there for your big day (his parents)

I agree with the other girls. My parents are choosing to not attend as well and are not supportive of our union. So I will not be listing them on the program. I am asking my godfather (who is in complete support of me and FH) to walk me down the aisle. So sorry you are going through this too.