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Meghan
Devoted April 2020

Let's hear some mil stories!

Meghan, on January 31, 2020 at 8:21 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 27

Ladies, I just need to know I am not alone in this! My future MIL has not been easy to get along with throughout the wedding planning. Last week my FH and I found out that she contacted our venue and scheduled a walkthrough/meeting. She did not plan to tell either of us she had done this. Last...

Ladies, I just need to know I am not alone in this! My future MIL has not been easy to get along with throughout the wedding planning. Last week my FH and I found out that she contacted our venue and scheduled a walkthrough/meeting. She did not plan to tell either of us she had done this.

Last night, I got an email from the venue manager confirming my appointment to do a walkthrough with my wedding planner. LOL...what?! I explained that she didn't really tell us that she was coming or what she was wanting to do there. The venue manager checked with me to see if MIL had decision making abilities for us and informed me she would keep me in the loop.

Today I got an email from the venue asking for their contact info because they hadn't shown up yet (20 minutes after their appointment). She checked back in with me later in the day telling me they came with our DJ to check out potential floor plans/layout. She did let them know this was fine, but final arrangements were to be made my my wedding planner and me.

I am just so frustrated by the whole thing. Thankfully our venue has been great, but I need MIL to mind her own! Anyone else??

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  • Meghan
    Devoted April 2020
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    Ugh I’m sorry! I get so excited talking about wedding plans. I can’t imagine feeling like people just don’t care.
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  • Meghan
    Devoted April 2020
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    She is paying for some things, but my parents, FH and I are paying for majority of it. The thing is that she will only offer to pay for things she wants. For example, she has a friend(ish) who makes cakes who she wanted to do ours. I don’t care much about the cake so I said fine even though this lady is not a bakery and just bakes out of her home and can’t do the design I wanted. I compromised the design I wanted because it wasn’t worth a battle. On the other hand, anything she hasn’t picked out for us herself she says is stupid and a waste of money. Photography is super important to me and I was not willing to hire just anyone. She made so many rude comments to me about my photographer because it’s not who she recommended. I am grateful that they are helping pay for some things, but I feel like it’s coming at a price.
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Ughhhhh she confused me. Ya know what you do you boo boo. It's your day so dress how you want and same for your fiance.
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  • Angelica
    Devoted August 2021
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    Yes, very confusing for myself also! Lol! 🙈 thank you for your input though! Makes me feel better, like I’m not being as disrespectful as I thought!
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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    No I don't think you are being disrespectful. At the end of the day if religion was really huge to your fiance then he would be marrying someone that has the same face. I don't know if she was expecting him to marry different type of person but either way you two have been together for 11 years so you're definitely in it for the long haul so she needs to respect you unless you're disrespectful to her she has a reason to act like that.
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  • Angelica
    Devoted August 2021
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    I really do appreciate it this!!!! Thank you so so much for your kind words!❤️
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  • Sage
    Just Said Yes October 2020
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    My FMIL worries non-stop and thinks we are throwing away our lives. She is constantly nagging my FH and it is making it very difficult for him to enjoy our engagement. His entire family is against it and it is so frustrating.

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