What hobbies do the couple have in common? If they like gardening, you can plan a garden tea party or if they enjoy cooking maybe a recipe shower. I know it's hard trying to tailor a party to two guests of honor rather than one, but most couples I know have at least one interest in common you can use as a starting point.
I really like your idea Sarah!! I think we will do that! I didn't mean so much that it was different just didn't know how to do it with two brides involved. I am one of the brides, I know it should be the same i should have explained more in my post. We are two very different people and so are our friends and I wasn't sure how to coordinate our shower together and have it be a flowing event where both parties would be happy. The only reason I brought up being a lesbian was to be aware that it wasn't a traditional bridal shower.
Melissa, you don't have to have a combined shower if you have separate interests and friends. I'm assuming you're not planning your own event? That should be for others to plan for you.
Holly is right. FW and I will be having a lumberjack bridal shower because lesbians.
But really, two women does not mean that the bridal shower has to be any different. There will just be two guests of honor. You can have a joint shower. You really shouldn't be too concerned about it though. Let someone throw it in your honor.
You do not have a party to help supply alcohol for your wedding. What in the entire fuck?
If you want to save money, have a small wedding. I've been together with FH for seven years, and I'm sure you have some things you can upgrade, like new towels and bed sheets. If not, skip having someone host a shower for you, and/or do a very small registry. Guests will get the hint, and just give cash/checks at the wedding.
First, I've only skimmed so I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned this, but you should not be planning/throwing/giving your own shower. That's just rude and greedy/gift grabby. Secondly, if someone hosts a shower for you, do whatever feels right. FW and I had a joint shower because our MOH's wanted to host it together. It was fabulous. The theme was bridal shower and there was food and presents. Her friends mingled, mine mingled, sometimes they mingled with one another. My other MOH opted to host one herself and that one was for me in the town my family lives in. It was smaller and also very nice. The fact there was two brides literally only changed the number of names on the invitations.
ETA: Both were at restaurants, both were great. The only difference between the two was the I ugly cried at one of the gifts because it was lovely and made me miss FW at the shower she couldn't make.