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Lesbian bridal shower

Melissa, on December 1, 2016 at 2:09 AM Posted in Planning 0 30
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So I don't really know how to go about planning a bridal shower let alone how to make it a joint shower that both parties with enjoy. Any ideas?

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Latest activity by AshleyR, on December 1, 2016 at 7:30 PM
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    Expert July 2017
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    I'm confused by your question.

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  • s
    Expert July 2017
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    If you need help planning a bridal shower there are tons of ideas online. I'm not understanding why the couple being lesbians is relevant.

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  • Del
    Master November 2017
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    What hobbies do the couple have in common? If they like gardening, you can plan a garden tea party or if they enjoy cooking maybe a recipe shower. I know it's hard trying to tailor a party to two guests of honor rather than one, but most couples I know have at least one interest in common you can use as a starting point.

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  • Deb
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    Inwod start by coming up with a theme and menu, assuming you already have a place to hold it.

    What do they like? The beach, books, baking? Try to tie a mutual interest into the theme. From there move to decor and what types of food/drinks you will serve.

    Since I'm having a beach wedding, and my Bach was a beach weekend my girls had my shower as a luau theme. Get creative Smiley smile

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Are you in charge of planning a shower for your friends/relative?

    Think 'wedding' shower instead of 'bridal' shower. Wedding showers usually are themed for both partners.

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  • Celia Milton
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    You have two guests of honor. That's really the only difference.

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  • Holly
    Master February 2017
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    Lesbians only like flannel. You clearly have to have a lumberjack themed party.

    (Sarcasm, please don't flag me.)

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  • Savanah
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    @holly lmfao. Clearly.

    OP just like Celia said.. it's two guests of honor as opposed to one. Nothing changed.

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  • M
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    I really like your idea Sarah!! I think we will do that! I didn't mean so much that it was different just didn't know how to do it with two brides involved. I am one of the brides, I know it should be the same i should have explained more in my post. We are two very different people and so are our friends and I wasn't sure how to coordinate our shower together and have it be a flowing event where both parties would be happy. The only reason I brought up being a lesbian was to be aware that it wasn't a traditional bridal shower.

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    But I love the alcohol idea! Talk about a way to save! We have been together eight years and really do have everything we need!

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    Melissa, you don't have to have a combined shower if you have separate interests and friends. I'm assuming you're not planning your own event? That should be for others to plan for you.

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  • Jeanmarie
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    Holly is right. FW and I will be having a lumberjack bridal shower because lesbians.

    But really, two women does not mean that the bridal shower has to be any different. There will just be two guests of honor. You can have a joint shower. You really shouldn't be too concerned about it though. Let someone throw it in your honor. Smiley smile

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    @Sara&L that idea is tacky AF.

    And OP, you don't throw yourself a shower.

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
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    No. No. No. and NO.

    You do not have a party to help supply alcohol for your wedding. What in the entire fuck?

    If you want to save money, have a small wedding. I've been together with FH for seven years, and I'm sure you have some things you can upgrade, like new towels and bed sheets. If not, skip having someone host a shower for you, and/or do a very small registry. Guests will get the hint, and just give cash/checks at the wedding.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
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    OMG yes, I agree with the others. Stock the bar for the wedding is not cool as a shower theme.

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  • Almost a Mrs.
    VIP December 2016
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    First, I've only skimmed so I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned this, but you should not be planning/throwing/giving your own shower. That's just rude and greedy/gift grabby. Secondly, if someone hosts a shower for you, do whatever feels right. FW and I had a joint shower because our MOH's wanted to host it together. It was fabulous. The theme was bridal shower and there was food and presents. Her friends mingled, mine mingled, sometimes they mingled with one another. My other MOH opted to host one herself and that one was for me in the town my family lives in. It was smaller and also very nice. The fact there was two brides literally only changed the number of names on the invitations.

    ETA: Both were at restaurants, both were great. The only difference between the two was the I ugly cried at one of the gifts because it was lovely and made me miss FW at the shower she couldn't make.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    You could have two separate showers for each of you, or do a couples shower!

    My friend had a couples shower this year and it was really fun! They just had a big cookout at their friend's house and did a few of the newlywed style games. Very low key Smiley smile

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  • M
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    Melissa ·
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    Whoa calm down people there are way nicer ways to address this then saying people are tacky and rude. Calm yourselves.

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  • M
    Beginner July 2017
    Melissa ·
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    I didn't think of it that way but your right. It would be a little weird. I will think of a different idea

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  • Almost a Mrs.
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    No one said any person was tacky or rude, hosting your own shower is tacky and rude.

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