Legally Married before Wedding?

If the legality of your officiant is a concern, then you can totally go on the 9th and get legally married.!

Well you won't be having a wedding ceremony on 9/12 if you are already married. So you'll be having a fake wedding re-enactment and party. Which is fine I guess, but dont' really see that point. Also, if you do this, just don't lie to your guests about it (not that you are, just want to point it out)- seems disrespectful to invite people to a wedding and reception when that's not actually what it is.

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100% this. Do not lie to your guests.

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I've been on these forums for more than a year and a half. I seriously doubt anyone here would have labeled you a "weirdo" because of your obssession with numbers. That's not what we do here. We don't name call here, and we try not to be judgy with each other. I find these women (and some men too!) on Wedding Wire to be a very supportive and uplifting group.

Unfortunately, the way you worded your original post created some confusion, or maybe generated the kinds of answers you didn't expect. You specifically asked if your thinking about the date was "weird." You asked for honest opinions. But because of the details you chose not to share (perfectly within your rights), there was confusion among the responders.

To answer your question (now that I have more relevant information), I will say, no I don't think it's weird. I sort of get that it's a numbers thing for you. I don't see anything wrong with what you are proposing. But I wouldn't try to keep it a secret from your family or guests, who will be attending your "wedding" just a few days later. I'm not implying that you were going to, but others have asked similar questions about getting married "secretly" on an earlier date, and not telling any of their guests that they're already married. That ends up looking a bit shady, and some people resent it. So, as long as people understand what you are doing, and why, I say do whatever makes you happy!!

This really is a great group of people. I hope you'll give these forums another chance.

Hey Hollie! I have been going back and forth about getting married before our wedding too! We actually really wanted to get married in February but all of our family would be traveling from places with lots of snow during the winter so opted for May. I think no matter what the reason is, if it works for you two then go for it.

Do whatever you want! A friend of mine just got "married" and then revealed at the reception that they had actually been married for a year! Only very close relatives knew. Not sure the reasons why, but no one was angry. I obviously love the whole ceremony and reception thing. But I also adore when two people sneak off to city hall and get married. Just the 2 of them, because that's what it's really about. I absolutely think you should do this!