Late RSVP guest ? What to do ?

Did you follow up with these guests before you put in your final numbers?

Determine if you want them there. If so, call the caterer and see what they can do re: food and rentals.

If it's too much of a hassle, tell them your numbers are in and it's too late.

Add them if you can

@Britti : No, I wasn't aware I was suppose to follow-up with guest . I just assume everyone should know what a rsvp card means and that it needs to be returned as soon as you know for sure .

@Novak : Seating or tables isn't a big issue , we have plenty of room .

If you followed up with them and they didn't respond by the deadline and the caterer wants to charge some sort of extra "late fee," then I'd say it's ok to tell them no.

If you didn't follow-up with them, then yes, find a way to add them.

If you haven't heard from someone you don't have their answer. You can't assume a "no." If you didn't follow up you need to accommodate them.

Most caterers will add because that is more money for them.

I don't know how you have 4 stars here and thought that everyone would respond in a timely fashion lol.

I just added two people to our final count last minute. It was no issue with the caterer - they'll just include it on the bill we're getting 7 days after the wedding for any bar totals that go above the amount we've provided.

Tip for new brides: ALWAYS follow up with people you haven't heard from. You never know if something was lost in the mail, or if they genuinely forgot.

I think you should try to make it work, but that's just me

You should always follow up because shit happens - people misplace the invitations, the mail gets screwed up, etc.

My caterer allowed us to add, but not subtract, after the final numbers were due. I'd say call your caterer and see if they will let you do that. Then, call anyone else you haven't heard from yet.

I think one thing that is a good idea is having extra seats just in case something happens. Some people HATE that, but we did it, and then yesterday FH's mom called us. Apparently his aunt, her husband, and their SIX, yes SIX, kids will actually be in UT that weekend for a funeral and so they are coming. That was... fun. But, it actually really wasn't a big deal because we already had factored in something like this.

FH is an eagle scout, so... always be prepared, right?

What PPs have said.. I would call the caterer and ask if they can add them in. If not, then you need to tell your guest they rsvp'd too late and cannot be accomodated.

Always follow up. We had quite a few no shows, so that was really frustrating. I would add them if you can.

Definitely contact your caterer and see if you can add them on. Are there many others you haven't heard from? If so you might want to find out if they are coming or not as they could very well just turn up on the day otherwise.

I'm just waiting on my cater to call me back. When I get home I guess I will have to check off guest I received a reply back from and call the rest.

The most memorable wedding I attended...ran out of food!! Turned out the bride and groom allowed certain people to come last minute and didn't tell the caterer (or something foolish). I was one of the last people in line at the buffet and left the wedding starving. I am still very annoyed to this day, lol.

@ViciousHamster this happened at my FSIL wedding. Not enough food. And they actually had to bring out two extra tables for guests that showed up. I'm also about 90% sure she never followed up with people. Lesson learned.

If you didn't bother to follow up after the deadline, you SHOULD have counted all the non responsive guests as yeses, so that you had plenty of food/drink and everyone was paid for.

At this point, I say get your butt on the phone, so the work you SHOULD have done a few weeks ago, the call your caterer and fess up to not doing your part in getting accurate numbers and payment.