Last minute invites?

We've been B-listed before and had no problems. To be honest, it's less expensive for us to just send a gift than attend and bring a gift. And we had to decline because it was just a few days notice, and we didn't have anyone to watch the kids.

I wouldn't be offended in the least, especially if we're not super close to the couple.

It depends on who it is. If it's someone that I'm close to or good friends with and feel like I should be on the "A-list" it would make me mad but if it's someone other than that, I wouldn't be offended. I love attending weddings. I think it's different b/c I'm planning a wedding and I understand the cost and limited seating and things like that.

Guests who have never planned a wedding would more likely be offended b/c they think money grows on trees and this stuff gets planned magically. SO to answer your question most likely I would not be offended it just depends on who it is.

It depends on how close I was with the person. If I was pretty close with the person, I'd wonder why I was B-listed. But I'd be okay with it if I knew I wasn't too too close to the person and would be understanding if I couldn't go but I'd be happy if a spot opened up.

If it was someone that I considered to be a close friend, then I might be a bit miffed. If it was more of an acquaintance/family friend, hell no! It would be pretty clear that I was in their second string of invites, but I would not be offended. I would go (if it was close enough) and have a blast, and NEVER question the couple as to why I wasn't invited initially.

Your parents sound very gracious and understanding.

not my way of doing things but sounds like everyone involved is ok with it

Sometimes though there are venue constraints and or budget constraints and you cannot possibly invite everyone you want.. I think the way the bride handled the situation was fine. I would not be offended if that was me

I think it would depend on who it is, but if it's handled honestly and tactfully, I wouldn't have an issue with it. I think most people understand that you can't invite everyone to a wedding and so sometimes there are people you'd like to invite but can't... so if there is a chance to invite them then it makes sense.

My parents and I were "B-listed" for my sister's friend's wedding several years ago. They had some people cancel and since the friend was always around our house, she called and said that she'd love for us to come if we were free. We were happy to go and understood why she might not have had room to invite us the first time around as your friend's parents and sister aren't usually a priority to invite. I'm sure my parents gave her a gift regardless so it worked out ok (I was young enough that my name would have just been included on their gift).

I wouldn't be offended at all. After planning a wedding, i understand that money and space prevent you from inviting everyone you'd like to be there. IMO it' would be more bothersome if space opened up and they still didnt want me there

It depends on the situation and the friendship. But my fiance and were clearly B-Listed, almost C-Listed, along with some others at our friends wedding. But the thing was, the bride has a HUGE FAMILY. HUGE.

Out of the 10 tables that were there, 1 of them was his friends/family. One.

So they clearly had to invite all of them in order to not start a bunch of drama. and then the groom was closer to some of our friends, so obviously they got invited first. But pretty much all of us were last minute adds. We ended up crashing our friends table, and the other people are our "no mans land" table did the same with their friends. We moved our chairs and silverware to the table with our friends and fit just fine.

We were pretty much invited the day before.

If I weren't invited due to budget or space, it would be much less offensive than being invited as a last minute chair-filler.

It depends.

I would love to invite more coworkers, but we just don't have the room. If I start getting some no's, I'm going to invite them. Our wedding is more casual, and we aren't paying per person - I just want people to come and have a good time.

I have a small b-list ( I don't care how RUDE it is) because there is a very strong possibility that up to 6 of our obligated invites (older generations and parents' siblings) will not be coming. the b-list invites will be dropped in the mail when the declines are confirmed.

We did family first, then friends. if people don't understand that family has priority than that's just too damn bad.

Well umm I had this situation come up and I called them as if I was following up on an RSVP and then dropped an invite in the mail to them. (Not honest but it did prevent hurt feelings)

There is just too much etiquette involved with weddings. At the end of s day, you can't please everyone. I have a B-list. It's mainly friends of the family. I don't think they would be offended.I know I wouldn't!

^^Agreed. Waay too many "rules" and you can't please everybody. Even if you followed every single etiquette rule to a "T" you would STILL have somebody who wasn't happy.