Lack of Representation at our Venue

View Quoted Comment Thank you for you response. It's really said that in 2019 many companies have this mentality that anything associated with people of color is not desirable or worth being displayed. Your wedding will be beautiful regardless. ❤️

I looked it up for context too after reading that. I’d just point out that the US as a whole is something like 12% African American and that particular town has basically a 0% African American population. I’d suggest considering that only 8-10% of the venues’ weddings involve African Americans and the pictures accurately represent their clients.

I'm glad you did your research but unfortunately you are still incorrect. Did you get married at Blue Heron Pines Golf Club? Have you ever been there? Even if there was one black couple, which there is not, one is not good enough. The venue does not display enough diversity and after speaking to the manager he agrees with me. In addition, this conversation is about people of color not the LGBTQ community so that comment was off topic. Statements such as "representation is absolutely present" is why we can't unite racially as a country. I'm not here to argue with anyone though. Have a great day, I will not be responding to any more of your comments.

View Quoted Comment Wow, this is great data to take into consideration. I spoke to the manager and according to him a few couple's of color have been married there this year. Unfortunately they are not shown.

View Quoted Comment Actually they are. Look at their insta, there’s about a handful.

Update: Last week I spoke to the general manager about this concern and today my wedding venue posted a picture of my husband and I on their Instagram page. Hopefully that's one step in the direction of inclusivity and representation of black and brown people at their location. Only time will tell.

I’m sorry this happened to you. I would put them on blast on social media if they don’t respond adequately to your valid concern. Congrats on your big day!!

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry this happened and sadly I’m not surprised in south NJ. I was seriously about to schedule a tour with them but I think I’ll pass. I’m glad you enjoyed your day!

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I never intended to put them on blast, I just want to make them more aware. I'm assuming positive intent and that they are not purposely not representing black and brown people. But only time will really tell now that they have been informed.

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I grew up in South Jersey and I think its a pretty diverse place which is why I was surprised about the lack of representation. I would tour with them but bring up the representation concern. It really is a good value. They include the wedding cake, table centerpieces, food, etc.

View Quoted Comment If I do tour with them I’ll make sure to mention your wedding lol

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Lol. If you do the tour you will most likely meet with Tara who is amazing. I really did think it was a beautiful venue. Try it out for yourself.

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Oh yeah, they also have a package that includes an open bar, a dessert room, and more.

View Quoted Comment Can I message you about your package?

View Quoted Comment Glad they did post you guys. Unfortunately it took a call to the general manager for it to happen. When we (mostly me lol) were looking at venues and vendors, we looked for people who have had interracial couples or just black/brown couples. So far we love them all!

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View Quoted Comment I just hope that they didn't post us because they thought that would make us happy. It's not about posting us. It's about posting black and brown people that have weddings at their venue. Representation matters.

I feel like that about alot of vendor. im having a hard time finding a makeup artist that has any pictures of working on poc brides

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Do you live in the tri-state? My makeup artist represents all brides and I love that about her!

I'm not trying to say there isn't prejudice or play down your experience but to bring in another point that I don't think has been raised yet.

I'm assuming you're in America, in which case the majority of people are white. I don't know the exact statistics but I'm guessing between 70-80% are white.

The average household income is significantly higher for white people than black people. I'm guessing a country club venue isn't cheap so if the average income is higher, they'll be more likely to be able to afford it.

So part the reason might be that there are significantly more white people getting married there