KWR: Why do people get SO butthurt...

I just don't get it.

I mean...if someone I know, but am not close to, is having a birthday party or a wedding, and I'm not invited, I don't get upset.

People have budgets, space issues, etc.

GAH it makes me MAD.

I hate that too. For example, I will post a pic of me and the kids out somewhere and people will write on my post how they weren't asked to come. Same with birthdays. As you said they haven't been around or hung out so why would they expect it?

I don't get it either. Maybe they don't have close friends? so they define you as close?

We had a friend at our wedding do something similar.... I've only known her for a year, DH only for a couple of more, it's more that she's in our group of friends, so was invited.

She got her escort card adn apparently went, "TABLE 17?!?! What?!" all upset because she thought she was "in the back"

1. Table 17 was front and center on the dance floor, so she felt stupid.

2. As our friend said, "What did you expect?" She's not even close with us, what'd she want, table 1?

Maybe she thinks that because you're FB friends that you're like... FRIENDS FRIENDS. I'm blunt and tell people look... We work together. We don't hang out outside of work. Our wedding is for family and close friends only. Sorry not Sorry.

Awk

Totally sorry not sorry...

she's such an awkward person too...when I had my surgery, FH had to work that night while I was still in the hospital (my mom stayed with me) and so he posted something about "Thank you for all your support" for those who were coming out to his gig, who visited me, who sent well wishes, etc.

This girl. She commented "Well, support goes both ways."

Why are you making this about you? We don't go to your gigs because we're always working on the same night. And you are a terrible KJ/DJ. Terrible. I've had to fix her sound on multiple occasions.

GRRR.

This is exactly why I don't have coworkers on my FB. I can use the excuse that I'm their supervisor, so I'm not allowed to.... I have an easy out LOL

I don't understand either. We are on a budget too and could not invite a lot of our friends and family because guest count was getting to high. When we first made our list we had 354, we are now down to 109 and still dropping.

Dear God.

This is like people who assume you are BFFs with them simply because you clicked "accept" on the friend request on Facebook, do nothing but "like" some of their shit and vice versa and then are shocked when there's no invite.

^^exactly.

FH blocked her already, I'm about ready to. I'm just done with all the "why aren't we invited" drama.

They're nice people, most of the time, but...man oh man. I'm out of f***s to give. lol

I've had so many employees/co-workers ask me are they invited to the wedding or assume they are coming to the wedding. I have allocated 5 invitations for people at work and these are people who I have a relationship with outside of this job. I've been hemming around this answer for these other folks but now I don't care. If you ask me I'm either ignoring you or telling you straight out "you're not invited". And these 5 people are only getting 2 seats each. Any additional that they bring will be outside in the cold. Sorry not sorry.

I had my bridal shower yesterday (super small - only like 8 of us - just how I wanted it). Picture was posted on FB and I get a PM saying "wish I was invited". I'm sorry. We were besties in middle school. As adults, post high school we have hung out for lunch or drinks a handful of times. You change your # constantly and when I ask for it, I am ignored. Why would I invite you to something so personal and intimate? I don't have your phone #, know where you live, nothing. If you deactivate your FB and I have no way to get a hold of you, that should tell you something!

Grinds my gears!

People just get so darn weird about weddings. I don't get it. I'll invite a few co-workers but certainly not them all. If I'm not close to you, why do you want to come to my wedding?

I posted pictures of my birthday party back in June (just a bunch of friends at our place for dinner and drinks), and FH's 65 year-old aunt made a big stink on facebook about how we didn't think to invite her. Seriously? If that's what we deal with for a casual birthday party, I can only imagine the drama that's in store for us when wedding invitations go out.

I work for a fairly large company. Five girls in my department are getting married this year. And I'm the only one having a big wedding (Between FH and I there's probably only 15 friends coming the 100 other people are family). Everyone keeps asking all the brides if they are invited. Seriously? Nobody at my job barely talks outside of work. The other girls are having like 50 and under wedding. People amaze me.

I was gonna say what @Ashley said. Where I live I have literally 9 family members. All distant relatives (great uncle, great aunt, and some third cousins). I had never met any of them before I moved out here 4 years ago so we all are just recently getting closer. But I went through a point where I felt FH's friends and their SOs should have been more "friendly" towards me. Like inviting me to things and such (not family things but just friend things). But then I realized these ppl aren't my friends. They are his friends, and his friend's SO. It took me about a good year of trying to be friendly with them that I realized and stopped completely.

Ugh. Sorry to hear that happened to you. However I totally understand. I know when making our guest list I asked myself, "what was the last thing this person hosted and was I invited?" It helped me put my true relationship to would-be guests. Into perspective. Don't feel guilty... Anyone who thinks she can bully her way into your event via snide insults has burned her bridge. Best of luck to you.