KWR: Salty about a thank you note

I am already stressing over thank you cards.

My mom and FH will more than likely write ours out. Though I've considered typing them, each one done personally, not generic. I'm so worried about being seen as lazy, or whatever because I type them out. Good to know what my friends and family would think of me if I did this...which is I'm apparently a lazy POS... smh

Eta; clarification.

I would be salty too, I still haven't received thank you notes of any kind from a friends bridal shower then another friends wedding gift... salty...

Ugh. I'd be pissed to receive a thank you note like this.

That is super annoying, but I guess at least they sent one at all. I had a friend do that for her baby shower, generic notes with a photo attached.

Sarah, I have nerve damage and muscle fatigue. So for me, writing by hand is very difficult and painful. So I guess I'll just have to torture myself to do thank you cards so I'm not seen as some horrible asshole.

Agreed with multiple PPs. I'd be upset more by the fact that it was a form letter than typed. Some people have atrocious handwriting. The generic thank you that doesn't even have your name or mention the gift is lazy.

I'm in your boat! I got one like this months after the wedding. It's tacky in my book. To me, it makes the couple seem extremely ungrateful.

@HisBeauty if the note was personalized and typed, then I wouldn't mind. I just think one generic printed thank you note is lazy.

@Kelsey it's rude because they clearly just typed this up as a blanket "thank you" and mass-printed this for every guerst. Thank you notes should be personalized for each guest, and yes that takes time.

@OP, I get it.. but not worth losing sleep over. I've been to weddings where I did not receive a thank you note at all.

You have every right to be salty.

Riya 100% agree. I don't even get thank you notes for gifts I've given. Lol I don't even care to be honest. I have so much more important things going on.

I have my son write out his thank you cards for his birthday. I want to teach him to be grateful and to thank people.

I always have to laugh at these posts pointing out someone else's heinous behavior. Yes. it's an etiquette faux pas. But the OP already knows that.

Perhaps a redeeming feature is that it may educate someone else that this is not acceptable.

Um....if you don't want to take the time to write out 150 thank you notes, don't invite 300 guests.....If you have 300 people you *have* to invite, then invite them but write the notes.

I can tell you that I write about 10 TYN a week, between couples, dj's and venues. It really doesn't take that long. And when I get a TYN from a couple? It makes my day.

But I think it fits into a larger discussion. People don't want to do table visits or receiving lines, invite more people they can possibly interact with, in some cases entertain them for the least amount of money they can....

At what point does a reception cease to be a celebration with the people you really care about and visa versa? Hypothetical question

To be honest, someone who has a busy life and just had to plan a wedding probably doesn't have time to write you a handwritten thank you note/card. I work full time, go to school full time, and I have 4 children, I will not be writing personal thank you cards. The people I am inviting would like to be invited so I do not feel as though they are doing me any favors. Maybe I come from a different type of family bc I doubt anyone attending my wedding would be upset.

I personally don't care. FSIL did a photo card with a generic message, but on the back she addressed us personally so I thought that was alright. I plan on handwriting mine, but that's the type of person I am. I think at the very least they should have signed their name.

Um...shamelessly calling this one TACKY

I've only received 2 thank you cards for about the two dozen weddings I've been to. We received one of the two on the one year anniversary of their wedding and it was typed out like that. We didn't care. We just flipped it picture side out and put it on our fridge.

Even worse than the fact that it is typed, not handwritten, is that it isn't specific to YOU and what you gave! That's rule #2 in thank you notes - they must be personal mentioning what that person gave you or did and something about your personal relationship with the giver. (rule #1 is to send them in a timely fashion and rule #3 is handwritten). It looks like they typed that same generic note to all guests!!!

I agree with PP that typing a standard message on a picture is fine, but then you have to add a few personalized lines on each to let the person know you were thinking of them specifically when you received the gift/ saw them/ were writing the note. This isn't just tacky, this is lazy.

I also grew up in a family where handwritten, personalized thank you notes were a requirement for special occasions (graduations, weddings, baby showers, etc.). I will say, like PP I'd accept this as opposed to no note at all. I've had a couple of weddings where there was no note at all, and one that was a generic, typed up letter like this.